Talking freely about meditation, energy fields and chakras has been a kind of coming out of the closet for me.
I mean, this is some pretty weird stuff.
There have definitely been points in my life when I thought anything to do with auras or angels was just crazy talk. But now these are the topics that interest me most. And of course it has crossed my mind that if these topics are weird, then how does that reflect upon me?
This is a question I’m no longer interested in asking.
Because what I’m finding out is that the more I let go of caring about what is weird and if I am weird then the more I can just be me.
And then the more I can just be, the more I can just relax.
And more I can just relax, the more I really start to like my life.
And the more I start to like my life, the more the things I want in my life start to happen.
All because I’m willing to just be weird.
Because it takes a lot of energy to carry around a façade. And that’s why there are more good reasons to be weird then there are to avoid being weird.
Let’s explore a few of the best reasons to just be weird here.
#1. Because There is No Such Thing as Normal
As the expression goes, “Normal is just a setting on a washing machine.”
This thing so many people are striving for, to be some type of normal, well, it doesn’t exist. The only thing that exists are differences, which basically in our culture is the same thing as weirdness.
Have you noticed? All of our boobs are different, our stomachs are different, our penises are different. Our skin colors are different, our opinions are different, our way of speaking is different.
Different is the only normal.
So, this trying to get to some sort of perfect state, what even is that? It’s an image that computers have created. It doesn’t exist.
Want to be like everyone else? Then be weird. Because that’s what everyone else is anyways.
#2. Big Business is the One Who Benefits from us Not Wanting to Be Weird
The truth is this idea that we need to look and act a certain way to be an okay person is really a carefully crafted construct of big business.
And they benefit big-time from this cultural obsession.
Those companies that are testing products on animals, using planned obsolescence to make more and more products that last for less and less time and are using child labor in developing countries to do all of this? These are the people that profit when we’re obsessed with trying to be something different then our weird selves.
And let’s not forget pharmaceutical companies—they are cashing in big-time on people not wanting to be weird.
Of course, there are times that we all need a little help. But how much of the psychiatric drug industry is fuelled by people feeling like they aren’t normal and that they have to medicate their way back to normal.
There is a lot of money to be made in trying to keep people striving for ‘normal.’
But in my opinion there is a lot of health to be found in embracing weird.
#3. Weirdness Needs Love, Too
If we’re only willing to consider embracing self-love when we’re at a point that we’re no longer doing anything we perceive as weird, then guess what folks, we’re never going to embrace self-love.
The crux of self-love is in it being unconditional. Is in it arising organically when we’re mad, jealous, hurt, sick, in all of the moments we feel inadequate and subpar. When we feel like somebody is going to point out that we’re different, and not in a good way, this is when we need self-love
In these moments that we feel weird and not in a good way, but in the way that we think something fundamental might be wrong with us, this is the exact moment that we push self-love away but it’s the exact moment we need to embody self-love. But we can only do that if we practice embracing self-love every time any little glimpse at feeling like being weird or different pops up.
We practice our self-love with the small weirdness moments so that it’s natural and easy when the big “I am garbage” weirdness moments inevitably arise.
So, alright all you weirdos out there, which is all of you, I’m not here to convince anyone to go out and dye their hair purple or dance in the middle of the street like no one is watching.
Because, really, without even trying, each of us is weird enough as it is.
Instead what I’m suggesting here is that each of us can just choose to relax into their own weirdness.
And in this letting the weirdness just be the funny thing is, all the weird stuff in our lives will probably start to feel normal.
Relephant:
My Husband told me to “Be Less Weird.” My Response:
Author: Ruth Lera
Editor: Renee Picard
Image: db Photography at Flickr
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