Every day, I hear from friends or colleagues who preface “I can’t do x” by explaining, “I’m an introvert.” Now, as true introverts know, it’s about more, and less, than being shy. We all feel shy. We needn’t box ourselves in with a label. We can, and must, as human beings, leap fowrard through our hesitation, if said leap feels wholesome and an opportunity for growth. That basic life skill—as Eleanor, a shy woman to start if there ever was one—observed, “do one thing a day that scares you.” Don’t give up on yourself.
On the other hand, I’m always termed an extrovert by those who know me (but don’t know me very well). And yet, I need, or think I need, hours a day of downtime, alone time. It’s been a big challenge in relationships. I wrote a whole book about needing that space. And so, here we go:
Whatever our nature, the trick is to examine our own experience deeply and sincerely with an eye toward being of benefit:
> Pema Chodron: How to do Tonglen, a meditation practice for difficult times.
> What it Means To be An Empath.
> A Survival Guide For Highly Sensitive People, Introverts & Empaths.