“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch
On Thursday, May 25th, there will be a Super New Moon and with it will come a lesson in new beginnings.
Perhaps sometimes it seems easier for us to stay where we are and think that being comfortable is the same as being happy—and so we choose to let opportunities pass us by.
We choose to remain stagnant.
Change is an illicit drug that it seems we either fear or become addicted to—that type of transcendental mystical element that can pick us up one day and land us in a different life the next without any warning or instructions. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason as to why life around us seems to be moving so quickly—our only choice is to either jump right in or sit it out.
The thing about human behavior is that we seldom like to feel pushed toward a specific goal, or really toward anything in our lives. We joke about letting others think that they came up with a specific idea because everyone likes to be the one with the good ideas.
But what of the expectations that we set for ourselves?
Is the pressure to change a physical manifestation of another’s actions or, instead, is it created because of our own beliefs about what we perceive to be reality?
Our thoughts dictate how we feel and, therefore, how we approach life. Under pressure to create change and also partake in new beginnings, perhaps we sometimes choose to sit out, because no one wants to feel that they are expected to do something.
Yet, if instead we loosely held the ideas within our minds, neither judging them nor clinging tightly to any one outcome, we might find ourselves closer to coming up with what we want to do—rather than what we had believed others expected us to do.
It’s a part of us releasing ourselves from expectations.
We have to make the choice to not search for approval from others for our choices, to not let the logical interfere with why we shouldn’t step forward, and, above all, to forget the notion that there is a time limit for seizing a new beginning.
In this life, we are all living parallel existences. Sometimes it seems as if situations are mirroring one another in our lives, and that, perhaps, what we are all experiencing is closer to a shared reality than the individual stories we had thought we were living.
We are all parts of a larger story, a bigger picture, and we are all here to share in this experience of life—the heartbreak, the agony, the bliss, the passion, and those moments when suddenly we just know that we are right where we are supposed to be.
So far, this year has been interesting for many. I’ve heard it in the stories of loss and those of surprise, and I’ve seen it in the tears of the devastated and the smiles of those who somehow ended up surprising themselves. But even with the year that we’ve seen so far, the reality is that it’s nothing compared to what’s coming our way.
Since January, we’ve been looking forward to May, when a lot of the astrological debris—if you believe in that kind of stuff—will have been cleared, and we are literally ready for takeoff. There is relativity where time is concerned, and while we can look at it as almost half of the year is already nothing more than memories, the reality is that the rest of the year is spread before us as a field of oysters filled with pearls, just waiting for us to seize and open whichever we choose.
Oftentimes we are our own worst enemies when it comes to change and new beginnings. We second-guess our decisions and backtrack over our desires until we’ve somehow become paralyzed and unable to actually make any choices at all. This is most likely a cycle that has been enmeshed in us since early March when all of us began a season of reviewing our old wounds and childhood conditioning that lead us to become the adults that we are.
But that’s the thing that I think we often forget—who we become has as much to do with what we have experienced as that which we haven’t.
We could move through this new moon and stay with our feet concreted to the past—there is no force in this world that can move us toward a new beginning if we aren’t actually ready to take it. Or, instead, we could decide to shake the ragged dust from our shaky hearts, rub our eyes clear of the fog, and decide to take just one step toward the beginning that we are longing for.
It doesn’t have to be a jump, or even a plunge, but just one small step can make all the difference in the world. At times, one step is all we need to separate us from who we were into the people that we are meant to be.
New moons are a time for new beginnings; so, while we are being supported in this endeavor, only our souls can decide if we’re actually ready to get really uncomfortable and venture far beyond our comfort zones that we have been so resistant to leave.
Time is always on our side, but readiness is also an illusion of fear.
Today is just as good as tomorrow, and tonight is just as fine as the morning. It’s all relative as compared to the feeling that somehow it’s the specific opportune moment that you’ve been waiting for all along. Perhaps you were chasing it, or maybe even running from it.
I suppose that now that it’s actually here, all you have to do is decide if you’re ready to begin, because life only gives us what we work for.
In the end, we either learn or we regret—but, if we’re really lucky, we’ll find happiness too.
And somehow the journey will make the destination all the more sweet, regardless of when or if we actually arrive.
Author: Kate Rose
Editor: Leah Sugerman