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August 14, 2019

Happily Ever After: Dealing with Stressful Times in a Marriage

All of a sudden, life catches you by surprise. No matter how much you plan, and no matter how much you prepare for some of life’s toughest challenges, sooner or later your marriage will be put to the test. We are not talking about your personal issues with your spouse, no, we are talking about a faithful, loving marriage overcoming life’s common hurdles, such as ensuring your kids become thriving adults, dealing with illness, and the like.

To preserve your loving relationship with your soulmate and rise up to these challenges together, you will not only need to work on your relationship and communicate, but you will also need to take concrete, decisive action. Here are some of life’s stressful scenarios and how you can overcome them.

What to do when the baby comes

One of the first big events in your life after the enthusiastic “Yes” is the moment you bring a child into your life. This is one of those turning points in the book of life that rocks your very core, strengthens the foundation of your marriage, and also changes you as a person for good. That said, a newborn will put your marriage to the test.

This is a grand commitment you’ve taken on, and you need to make sure that both you and your spouse are up to the task. Most importantly, you need to make this transition as smooth and enjoyable as possible. While there’s never the “perfect moment” to have kids, you should definitely wait until you’ve strengthened your financial standing, made a baby budget, and resolved your living arrangements. You don’t need to own a home, but you do need a place to call your own.


Putting your children through college

As your children are growing up, you will find that money tends to take center stage in almost every scenario. It might be an unpleasant thing to admit, but financial security is one of the elements of a happy marriage, and happy parenthood. Yes, your love for your children will transform them into thriving adults, but you also want to be the air beneath their wings along the way. With that in mind, be sure to set up a college fund from day one, maybe even before your child is born.

Dealing with medical conditions

As time goes by and years pass, life tends to take a toll on our bodies. Don’t worry, this is completely natural, and just because you rarely visited the doctor’s office when you were in your 20s doesn’t mean that you won’t start feeling the common aches and pains down the road. Again, this is a natural process, but you need to stay vigilant.

Pay close attention to your physical health, and the health of your spouse. Are you sitting down a lot? Is your back aching? Don’t wait, but instead educate yourself on the corrective procedures provided by medical experts such as Dr Timothy Steel in order to find the best treatment option that will elevate your quality of life as you age. Remember, regular checkups are a must as well, so if your spouse won’t go to the doctor on their own, it is your duty as their partner to encourage them to go.

Emotional support through personal loss

Once more, as the years pass, personal loss becomes inevitable. As their soulmate, you are there to provide emotional and psychological support and comfort during the darkest of times. Whether you or your spouse have lost a parent, a sibling, or any loved one, it is imperative that you overcome this challenge together. Not just to strengthen your bond, but to banish the fear that comes with the notion of passing – be there to guide your loved one through every stage of grief.

Caring for your spouse through seniority

Reaching your silver years in each other’s arms is one of the biggest things you can hope for, as it truly is one of life’s greatest achievements. And now, another chapter begins. Be smart about seniority and retirement, and be sure to create a realistic plan with your spouse.

Be sure to make seniority as comfortable as possible by relocating to a smaller, senior-friendly place. Hire professional help if need be, someone to look after you and take care of common household chores. And of course, be sure to stay active with your loved one in order to improve your quality of life and retail vitality and zeal for years to come.

Wrapping up

Every stage of life has its unique set of challenges, but having someone’s hand to hold through each stage makes it infinitely easier. Plan for these common challenges with your soulmate, and you will have created a plan that will strengthen your bond every step of the way.

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