When I was young, I remember having a crush on a dear girlpal of mine. She was so beautiful and kind and charming, yet not superior as some popular kids tend to be.
I was terrified of asking her out.
My mommy encouraged me to go for it. Call her!
“Worst that happens, Waylon, is she says ‘no.’”
So I called. I was awkward. I was terrified. I managed to say some coherent things, and asked her out. I think it was a school dance. I know it was, c’mon, I might forget things that happened an hour ago but I’ll never forget the terror of that date.
‘Cause yeah, she said yes.
She called back, later, and said “kinda”—i.e., we could go together, but not as a date. It’s all silly to remember, considering we were, like, 10.
But the wisdom of that advice remains:
…as my mommy used to say, If you go for it and you fail, you’re left with no, which is right where you started. Go for it—now.
The only cost is vulnerability, and learning to breathe through fear…and that’s good for us.
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