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November 10, 2020

Death Doula: Finding Comfort in Life’s Final Moments

For decades, doulas have provided birth support for laboring mothers, watching as a new life takes its first breath and embarks on its worldly journey. And now, that same support is being offered when a person is ready to take their last breath and close the book of a life well lived. That support comes from a death doula, a person invested in another’s holistic care at the end of life.

The practice is becoming more widely known, but like death itself, there are still many mysteries surrounding it. Take it from an intuitive death doula who has been gifted with the ability to help people leave this world with peace, comfort, and dignity.

What is a Death Doula?

The term “death doula” refers to someone who helps the dying live their final moments. But my role goes much deeper than this. I can put feelings at ease and create a sense of peace, but I also help people make the transition to the other side.

I didn’t realize I was a highly gifted intuitive empath until the last moments I spent with my grandmother. When I was at her bedside, I started speaking to her internally. I knew she could hear me. And then, a feeling of serenity overcame me and I felt like I was levitating. The world around me had changed, and I felt warmth and everlasting love. I also became aware of many spirits around us that were guiding and embracing us. These spirits were waiting for my grandmother and welcoming her into the celestial plane. That evening, she crossed over, and I was blessed knowing I had helped to guide her into the unknown.

This is the true gift of a death doula, something that can’t be taught with a certification or formal training. After realizing my gift, I decided to use it to bring comfort not only for grieving families, but also to those who didn’t want to see their death as an ending defeat.

Helping the Dying to Live with Intent

THE 7 STAGES OF GRIEF ALIGNMENT

I’ve noticed that when a person knows they’re at the end of life, living is no longer a priority. But I fully believe that living with intent is the key to finding guidance and crossing over, and I do this in seven ways:

E M B R A C E

  • Express (such as emotional journaling)
  • Meditate
  • Be Present (mono-tasking and being in the moment)
  • Rejuvenate (disconnect from obligations)
  • Awaken
  • Connect with yourself
  • Eat mindfully

When you live with intent, even in your final days or moments, you gain the peace that comes with closure. This is just as important to the person dying as it is to their families, and I work with both to overcome grief and find purpose in the moment.

Removing the Taboo is a Step Toward Healing

Death has always been such a taboo topic, but I believe it’s important for my clients and their families to set the right expectations and be part of this journey.

When the right activities and conversations can take place at the end of life, nothing is left unsaid or undone. That’s what helps the family left behind continue moving forward. 

To learn more about the role of a death doula, purchase my new book, “A Journey of Unconditional Love.” on Amazon 12/29/2020.

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