A word is not a word and a thought not just a thought

We have become conditioned to expect the worst outcome and then we are left with the consequences when our words, thoughts and actions resulted in the outcome we did not want to manifest in our lives in the first place.

This is how to prevent that from happening:

When we see others fail on a subjects or project, we ourselves are working on and they don’t succeed because of external factors that’s simply out of our hands, it doesn’t mean they weren’t good enough nor does it mean we will fail.

Failure is only but a stepping stone. – Imgur

When consciously doing something like writing a book, article, or publishing a video; we don’t do so for it to fail. Of course, we want to be successful at everything we do, otherwise why would we do it in the first place? But for us to succeed we need to have confidence in ourselves that we are doing the best we can do. But that’s not all we can do: visualise the project reaching new heights and reaching the desired target audience. See the content being talked about with friends and reaching the top of the charts. How would that feel? Greatness starts with a clear vision of the future and that future starts in the now.

It’s easier said than done because as stated earlier we do tend to be more pessimistic than optimistic which means we are hard on ourselves, over critical, and having the feeling we are not good enough, so we see ourselves failing before we’ve even started. It does take a conscious effort to ensure you keep your state of being positive as much as possible.

It’s like changing the behaviour such as stop smoking or eating healthier. It’s hard in the beginning but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Becoming more self-aware when we self-sabotage ourselves is crucial in the understanding why we fail.

Now you know why it’s so hard to change someone else. Unless we are willing to change, change won’t occur. So, you see, you can still change dog a new trick if they are willing to learn.

So from this day forward, if our colleagues, friend, and family fail in their endeavours; instead of falling into despair thinking that this will also be our outcome we have to say to ourselves: I will be the one succeeding, I will be the one individual that will make it through and thrive. These types of affirmations will help us keep a positive frame of mind, but we also must bear in mind that we cannot use affirmations while still believing we will fail. Those are two opposing factors that simply cannot work together.

A few key notes to keep in mind:

• Never respond to someone while angry.
• Listen to uplifting music that will help keep your positive focus
• Listen to humour to remove you from any negative thoughts
• Catch negative self-talk such as “Why does this always happen to me?” “I have the worst luck,” “I never win at anything.” And ask: what do I want to feel instead? How can I love myself more in this moment?
• And a common one if you haven’t heard it before is practicing gratitude.

You are already a success. All you have  to do is see it. If you can’t see it, how do you expect others to see it?

I will those questions for you to ponder over.

Article by Chrysilla Lewies