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Authenticity is pretty much essential while dating and requires a lot of courage.
Sometimes, being ourselves entails getting rejected, but we have to take the risk if we don’t want to lose the chance of experiencing genuine love.
Inauthenticity most likely looks like pretending to be an astronaut when we have no idea what NASA stands for, and yet, there are even more hard-to-detect ways to be false to our dates and ourselves.
So what’s the role of authenticity in online dating?
According to a survey by the dating app Plenty of Fish, almost 84 percent of singles seek authenticity while dating. The internet does make it easy to hide the truth, but sticking to the truth is vital if we want a healthy relationship.
These techniques can help us be true to ourselves and our date:
>> Turn off filters. It’s natural to choose flattering photos of yourself for your profile, but they need to be recognizable. Your date may feel deceived if you change your eye color and remove too many wrinkles.
>> Use your words. Potential partners will usually learn more about each other from verbal descriptions rather than photos. Include stories that showcase your personality and describe what you’re looking for in a relationship.
>> Be honest. Provide any information that may help someone in need decide if they want to go on a first date with you. That includes being candid about your current relationship status.
>> Meet offline. Chatting online can be fun at first but may lead to romantic fantasies and unrealistic expectations if it goes on too long. Schedule a coffee date if it seems like the interest is mutual.
>> Stay safe. You can be authentic and protect your security at the same time. Do a Google search by image to help detect any fake online accounts. Ensure your first meeting is in a busy public place.
What about authenticity in offline dating?
Remember that successful dating is more about discovering if you’re compatible rather than trying to impress others. You’ll both have more fun if you allow your true self to shine through.
These strategies may help in offline dating:
>> Share a meal. Happy relationships can begin in a bar. However, you’ll probably form a more accurate picture of each other if you go out for dinner at a quiet restaurant or take a walk. Look for settings that encourage leisurely conversations.
>> Express yourself. Do you feel pressured to say what you think the other person wants to hear? If you want to be happy together, you’ll need to reveal your true thoughts and feelings and encourage your date to do the same.
>> Share strengths and interests. You may be more at ease speaking your mind if you start with subjects that feel comfortable. Focus on the things you love and do well.
>> Follow your instincts. Listen to your inner wisdom. Romantic chemistry can be mysterious, so try to evaluate the basis of your attraction and decide if you want to spend more time together.
>> Keep growing. Your authentic self continues to evolve. Pay attention to your changing needs. You may find that you need to update your relationship goals.
>> Introduce the family. Most relationships extend beyond couples themselves. Introduce your date to your family and friends. Be open to your friends’ feedback. If you find that difficult, it may be a warning sign about your future.
>> Consider your purpose. Of course, you have to know yourself before you can be authentic about dating. Think about your values and life purpose. Ask yourself how your relationships align with your priorities.
Successful long-term relationships require trust and honesty.
Being authentic from the start will give you a healthy start on love.