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December 3, 2021

Life Is Made of What Ifs, Giving a Few F*cks, and Maybes

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The Right Time!
When is the right time if not this moment?

You will be inspired, and guided to do what you need to do, when you need to do it.

When you intuition is nagging you to do something—Act upon it! That feeling will be nagging at you until you do; like a dirty kitchen that needs cleaning, or a raggy cushion that keeps looking at you out of the corner of your eye saying: “puff me.”

We spend our entire life imagining how our life and our experiences should look or be like, and when an opportunity arises, we either grab it with both hands or we allow it to slip through our fingers like jelly with not enough gelatine or substance to keep it all together.

We only get this one life and every opportunity is gold dust. Yes, there’s plenty more experiences that awaits us and there’s plenty of fish in the sea, we’ve heard all that one before, but what about this moment? There’s always that one slippery fish that gets away and swims back into the deep dark waters that’s filled with: “what ifs, a few f*cks, and don’t forget the maybes.”

We torture ourselves over it for days, months, or even years, or we convince ourselves that it simply wasn’t meant to be. Maybe it was or maybe it wasn’t, we will never truly know. But this is what I do know: we remember people that made an impact in our lives, but more so, we remember how they made us feel.

When I think of those who touched the core of my being, it feels like jumping into a lake and being unable to dry myself from its warm comforting waters.

I know that each one of us will know the feeling of wishing we had more courage or asking ourselves why we didn’t act on something that felt so right.

The truth is there’s a right person but a wrong time, or an opportunity when we simply weren’t ready. You’ll soon see that you will be; it just wasn’t the right time when you wanted it to be.

The fact remains that many enter our lives for a reason, no matter how big or small that reason may be, a season, or when we are truly blessed, a lifetime. Every individual and experience we have being blessing and a lesson without a shadow of a doubt.

You may think that certain experiences were not blessings at all, but ultimately, it’s how we dealt with the experience and what it had taught us that’s important. You can only know love, if you have been unloved, and you can only know wealth when you’ve experienced poverty.

The point is, what has happened has happened and there’s no turning back. Forgive yourself and that which you’re holding onto and wishing for life to be different. Forgive those who has hurt you, and let go of all the But’s,  and Maybe’s, because if you had to change yourself or lose yourself in any way, shape or form, then it wasn’t worth it anyway.

The lesson is to be present with your thoughts and experiences, having a curious and open mind to all possibilities without judgment of the reason or how the result should look like. Build upon the moment, laugh, and have fun with the potentials.  No one can live up to our expectations, and often we fail them ourselves.

It’s not the experience which ends up disappointing us. It’s the expectations we hold.

Love deeply, remember you’ll be inspired in the moment. You’ll be guided and will have the support, courage, and resources to do what you need to do when you need to do it.

And most importantly—do it!

Article by Chrysilla Lewies

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