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At the moment, many women are reaching out with a desire to have deeper, more fulfilling sexual experiences.
For some women, it’s about being able to have sex without pain. For some, it’s about having an orgasm. It’s about feeling desire. It’s about exploring and discovering. For other women, this is about internal orgasms, G-spot orgasms, or A-spot, cervical orgasms.
So much of this begins with a journey of what some people call de-armoring, opening, and softening.
It’s about releasing.
Releasing what’s in the tissues of your yoni, releasing what’s blocking the connection between heart and yoni, releasing the inhibition and limitations. It’s about releasing the beliefs that keep you in a pattern and releasing that which blocks you from having the experiences, feelings, and sensations that you’d like to have.
I teach so much about the patterns we live in and how these patterns are in the body, as well as in the mind. Our experiences—our past—live in our bodies. And so much of that sits in the tissues of your yoni.
Every time you felt guilty about sex or pleasure.
Every time you felt embarrassed about your body.
Every time you felt shame about sex.
Every time you felt pressured to have sex.
Every time you felt you had to have sex for a reason other than your own desire or pleasure.
Every time you were touched in a way that was not loving or honouring.
Every time you were penetrated, in any way, before you were ready.
Every time you felt rushed.
Every time you felt your pleasure was taking too long.
Every time it was painful.
Every time it was unfulfilling.
Every time you felt you had to be less than you are.
Every time you felt like you couldn’t make the noise you wanted to.
Every time you felt rejected and you couldn’t express your desire.
All of these “every times” sit in your body—in your yoni.
Tissue that should be alive, awake, and sensitive can become numb, tender, or even painful. And as much as the de-armoring, the releasing, the softening, and the opening are about pleasure, it’s about so much more.
It’s about your heart because these practices are deeply connected to your heart. This is about a greater love for yourself, in so many ways.
It’s about your throat and the practices that are connected to your throat.
It’s about your voice. Not only the voice of pleasure but your voice in life. It’s about asking for what you want—in all of life. It’s about saying what’s important to you. It’s about your voice being part of the song of life.
It’s about your spine. It’s about the energy, the vitality, and the life force that flows there.
It’s about your creativity, expressed in so many ways.
It’s about deliciousness, juiciness, and passion.
It’s about life.
It’s about the joy in life; an inner state of being that we live with, we live in, and we live through.
Our sexuality is not in a vacuum. It’s not in a box that we take out in specific contexts and use, then put away again. It’s in all that we are—in every breath and every moment.
As we release our sexual blockages, we have more energy for all of life. And, of course, pleasure deepens and expands in ways we’ve read or dreamt about. Because our sexuality is connected to every aspect of ourselves, this release needs to happen on all levels.
As much as it’s a body practice, it needs to be connected to the heart, to sound, and to the breath.
Our minds give us an understanding—a context. We feel and we sense the tension, the numbness, and the hurt. And we feel the release, the awakening, and the tingling as we come alive.
We use the word yoni from Sanskrit. Part of its meaning is home, space, and sacred space.
This is a sacred journey to you, the home of your body, the home of your heart, and the home of your pleasure, your power, and your mystery.
It is the limitless possibility of divine sexuality.