We all know how bad Time can be when we talk about deadlines, right?
That first breath you take before your body begins to collapse. That project you have to deliver before school ends. Things that you can actually understand why Time is important.
What about when you can’t understand it. What about when Time, or better yet “Timing,” is something that none of us can seem to get quite right?
I’m talking about relationships because the biggest obstacle you can face in any relationship is Time. And it can start even before the relationship does.
Imagine you meet the person of your dreams. Cool idea, isn’t it?
Now add the fact that this person has to leave the country the same month you meet so they can study or work abroad. Not that cool after all.
Was it your fault? Absolutely not. Maybe if you’d met a couple of years ago, things would have been much better. You could have gone with them; maybe they would have changed their mind and stayed with you. But that’s not the case.
Another example, you form a wonderful and incredibly close friendship with someone, but they are already taken. Was that your fault too? Not at all.
Let’s DJ Khaled this article and give you “another one.”
Your relationship ends because one of you isn’t ready to get in a serious relationship. Or maybe it ends because you’re getting serious too soon. Also not your fault.
So who’s to blame for all of this?
Congratulations! You guessed it right—Time/Timing. If you had better Timing, all of those examples would have gone differently.
But I’m here to tell you the hard truth, which you might not want to believe, but you have to face: the people you meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people.
You never meet the right people at the wrong Time because the right people are timeless. You might argue with me and say, “But they were the person of my dreams, and if it weren’t for their job or travels, we could have stayed together.”
It’s true, you could have. But who says that they really were the person of your dreams? You did. You believed that in the short time you two have spoken to each other.
What if they were not? What if four or five months into your relationship, you found out that you were wrong and don’t really want to spend your life with them? How about that close friendship you had with someone who is already taken? Would you still have it if they were single? Would you two have become so close if you only saw them as a potential partner? Do you want to risk the friendship you currently have with them?
The worst example yet is when you meet someone who is single, not leaving the country, and everything falls into place, but they just got out of a relationship. What do you do then? How do you convince yourself not to blame Time? How can you believe anything I just told you, when you see the opposite happening in front of you? What can I possibly tell you to convince you that he/she is not the one for you?
This is where the roles are switched. This is where you have to escape Time’s control over everything and anything you ever did in your life so that you control Time instead.
Too confusing? Allow me to clarify it.
In the previous examples, we said that you had no control over the circumstances of meeting that person. But here, you have all the Time you need. Yes, they just got out of a relationship, but just this once, Time is your ally. You see, now you have all the Time in the world to reach your ultimate goal. You’re not afraid they might find someone better because you are that someone. You’re not afraid that they are getting too serious with you because that’s what you actually want.
Now you have all the Time in the world to offer them all the Time that they need. This is one of the rarest occasions where Time can be under your control and not the other way around.
So if you ever face this situation, remember this.
Because if you can’t wait for them to be ready for you, all I can say is…I’m sorry it didn’t work out.