Life is basically insecure. That’s its intrinsic quality; it cannot be changed. Death is secure, absolutely secure. The moment you choose security, unknowingly you have chosen death. The moment you choose life, unawares you have chosen insecurity. Such is the law of life, something which is inevitable.

The moment things are secure you will feel bored because there is no possibility of any exploration. That’s why marriages create so much boredom. It is the same love affair that was such an adventure; once it becomes institutionalised as marriage it loses all joy, all dance, all poetry. It becomes mundane and routine, but it is secure.

Love is insecure. One never knows the ways of love. When it happens it happens, when it disappears it disappears. You cannot do anything about it. Marriage is manageable. The law, society, public opinion, morality, religion, fear of hell, greed for heaven – these are all props which keep marriages somehow alive. But it is not true life.

True life is always moving from the known, into the unknown. And the crossing point from the known to the unknown is what insecurity is all about. The moment you cross the boundary, you feel insecure. With the secure, with the familiar, you are bored; you start becoming dull. With the insecure, the unknown, the uncharted, you feel ecstatic, beautiful, again a child – again those eyes of wonder, again that heart which can feel the awe of things is there.

You would like to know these beautiful spaces with security, but that is not possible in the very nature of things. If you want beautiful spaces, you have to start loving insecurity. And then a miracle happens: If you can love insecurity, its “insecurity-ness” disappears. If you know insecurity contains love, beauty, ecstasy, truth, God, then where is the insecurity?

Insecurity exists in your fear of the unknown, of the true, because you have lived in lies for so long. Your collective unconscious is full of lies, and it goes on projecting those lies on the screen of the mind. Everybody has lived in fear because all religions have exploited the natural instinct of fear in man.

The insecurity is there because you have not been brought up with a right approach towards life, nor given any insight into the truth of insecurity. You have been simply made afraid. You have not been trained, disciplined for adventure. You have been told to remain within the boundaries and never to go beyond.

The child is so dependent on the parents. He has to listen to them; he cannot say no. So he accepts the boundaries. And when you have accepted certain boundaries for 25 years, that is one-third of your life and the most important one-third … You will never again be so intelligent, vital, vulnerable, innocent and unconditioned.

I am not saying parents are doing harm to their children knowingly, intentionally. They are good people; their intentions are good, but their understanding is poor, almost non-existent. Otherwise, every parent would help the child to go beyond the known. That is the true function of a parent, and of a master: to help you to go beyond and become a lover of the unknown, to help you to be more poetic rather than more calculative. Then there will be no problem. The living space and the insecurity of it, you will rejoice in both.