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Our lives are full of karmic relationships.

These relationships might cause us suffering or make us learn some lessons. They require hard work, but once the work is done, they either get lighter or completely fizzle out as if they have never existed before.

It can be a colleague who bothers us or one of our parents.

It can be someone who works with us or a romantic partner—romantic relationships that are karmic always take the cake.

The thing about karmic relationships is that they are meant to change us. All the suffering and resistance happen when we refuse to change and shift for the better.

It’s just that it’s damn tough to accept and understand that because karmic relationships tend to make us suffer—they are meant to heal a part of us and a part of our beloved in order to move the connection to a more loving vibration.

I summed up how to deal with a karmic relationship in a way we can quickly overcome it—even if we cannot step out of it, at least we might suffer less.

I know I suffered a lot in the past and learned the hard way how to move past karmic relationships. Here’s what I did:

1. Accept the situation. We might think we won’t survive the relationship or get over our beloved. But we always do, and their presence in our lives will put us directly on the path of our dreams, purpose, and self-love.

For that to happen, we need to accept that the relationship is karmic and that it could be our fault from another lifetime. Let me tell you that it’s tough—it is easier to shift the blame, whine, and drown in sorrow.

But that doesn’t change anything. The moment we take responsibility of our own actions (in the present and the past), we automatically step into awareness, and the relationship stops hurting us.

2. Heal that bit. They say, “As within so without,” and it is absolutely true. When we meet toxic people in our lives, we must search inside of ourselves to find the reason why we attract them and heal that part of us.

To each their own—so do whatever it takes to stop the suffering and release the toxic pattern. Once we determine that we’re ready, the universe will respond and come to our aid.

Quoting one of my gurus, Yukteswar Giri Maharaj, “Change yourself—do not expect the whole world to change for you.”

3. Let go of the outcome. We shouldn’t go into our ego space, thinking we will heal, change that person, or transform this situation. We should always try to let go of the outcome instead—no one can actually tell or decipher the karmic web until the karma is completely resolved between two people.

We can never know what will happen with complete accuracy, and we don’t know what is for our highest good. This is especially applicable to romantic karmic relationships. We should never harp on the outcome—we should resolve it.

4. Learn the lesson. Most of the times, karmic relationships are trying to teach us something or bring out something in us, which can totally transform our lives and turn us into a better version of ourselves.

Recognize the lesson, and learn it quickly because it will help dissolve the toxic pattern. For instance, crossing paths with disrespectful people might teach us to respect ourselves. If no one gives us the attention we crave, maybe we don’t give it to ourselves.

We should learn the lesson and move on to the next level.

5. Protect yourself from taking the wrong decisions. When we go through a karmic relationship, we tend to ignore the red flags and make excuses for the bad behaviour we receive—along with other small wrong decisions we make.

It’s valuable to keep our loved ones close and ask them for help with making the right decisions. Our emotions will eventually overwhelm and blindside us—it’s bound to happen at some point.

Let’s try not to make any decisions at this time, even if we have to. Instead, let’s seek help and listen to the people who care about us, and make a promise to ourselves to protect us from “us.”

6. Forgive and forget. Once the karmic sh*tstorm is over, we are left with thoughts like, “How dumb could I have be? How could I not see that? Why did I ignore the red flags?

We might be confused or in shock for some time by the blunders we did—or that the other person did. But let me let you in a secret: wherever karma is concerned, we all have the same IQ level—we tend to forget everything when a love like this occurs.

That said, forgive yourself and the other person. Take the change and the growth that ensued with you, and leave the rest.

If we follow these six rules, they might help us learn our lessons faster.

Eventually, we might become more aware and deal with all relationships in a better manner. Either way, we should remember there’s nothing we can do.

We are all here to learn and grow together, and keep in mind that all suffering is temporary.

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