It would be dishonest for me to say that I am not affected by the shenanigans on the political stage these days.

I admit to, at times, feeling great discomfort, even fear, as I witness massive changes in the world order, and the uncertainty about tomorrow that this creates.

At the same time, I believe that change was desperately needed.

I also believe that the only constant is change.

It’s the actual witnessing of the familiar structures crumbling that is highly uncomfortable.

Even for me, who has lived through many cultural and political changes, including the complete destruction of the world as I knew it several times since childhood.

Change, especially rapid and unexpected change, creates cognitive dissonance. It breaks down our habitual ways of thinking and patterns of existing. And that brings a lot of fear and pain.

And when we experience fear and pain, we tend to lash out and fight.

And notice: we humans are always fighting something—a wrong leader, a partner who doesn’t live up to our expectations, an illness, aging, even death itself.

As a result, we find ourselves in constant and continuous conflicts: internationally, within the same country or region, between neighbors, within families, and certainly within our selves.

The danger is that those who are convinced they fight evil become the new oppressive force.

We see this throughout history and witness it still.

It is part of our collective societal trauma: yesterday’s oppressed group rises to power to repeat the same violence on a new oppressed group.

Just like if we experienced violence or neglect as children, we internalize that behavior and continue applying it to ourselves and perpetuate with our own offspring.

Because when humans are moved to action by multigenerational unexpressed unhealed fear and scarcity—under the guise of correcting outside evil— the fighting turns into control and oppression in new forms.

The revolutionaries become the new law enforcers and police.

So, how do we stop perpetuating the trauma?

It’s the divisiveness (and inner fragmentation) that is at the root of all suffering. (I see it daily in my practice.)

I believe we have to stop fighting one another (and within) and start embracing.

First of all, embrace the fact that there probably will never be a perfect new structure that would stamp out all evil, all disease, all unhappiness, all un-wellness.

The only cure is actually to embrace the wholeness of our existence.

Each one of us contains everything: the good, the bad, and the ugly.

We have to learn to live with our wholeness, so we can actually address what we are ashamed of, learn to live with it, heal it, forgive it, and choose differently next time.

We have to be willing to let die our identities and rigid self-concepts over and over again. And be ready as a society to have our structures be destroyed, over and over, so that something new can actually emerge.

And I hear our collective fear:

How will we prevent our society from being taken over by fascism or other terrible ideologies?

Shouldn’t we resist that? Shouldn’t we fight it?

Well, we’ve been fighting fascism for over a century now.

And here it is again: in plain view for everyone to see—globally.

So did we really fight it? Or did we just suppress it, drive it underground?

I believe, instead of resisting evil and ignorance somewhere out there, we need to do it from within.

That’s right: it starts with each one of us.

I personally have been learning to relate to my inner oppressor for 10 years now. Same with my inner supremacist, inner abuser, inner bully. It was hard to catch them and face them because I kept pointing to them on the outside.

We need self-aware, self-possessed, tolerant, open-minded, and community-minded citizens.

And we don’t have that right now.

We have people who are confused and disconnected from their bodies, their hearts, their power, their intuition.

And disempowered and disconnected citizens are easily co-opted by false information and by cult-like ideology.

True revolution, true change, is born from something new.

And new comes from healing intergenerational trauma so that we understand that true safety and enough-ness is tapped from within.

When we reparent our inner child and reconnect to our bodies to hear our intuition.

When we stop reenacting the power-hungry, greedy trauma response to the deficits we experience in our childhoods or inherit from our ancestors.

Currently, too many of us are so under-resourced—physically and emotionally—that we become desperate.

And desperate undernourished people will just continue repeating the oppressive cycles over and over again—within ourselves, in our families, in our communities, internationally.

​Evil is a part of every person​.

Each of us has behaved that way: ignorant or controlling or narcissistic or vengeful.

So when we fight someone for being that which we hate, we hate our Self.

The solution is not found in fighting, nor in hating.

It’s in understanding that evil is one of the expressions of the human being.

The solution is in becoming so expansive, so abundant, so whole and enough, that we learn to include what we don’t like or don’t understand, rather than fight it.

As we learn and practice to embrace and love each of our parts unconditionally, working on acceptance and forgiveness, we will start having a choice.

And when we have a choice, we can choose to no longer express our evil side, because we would rather express our loving side and our abundant side.

The Old Paradigm doesn’t work.

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