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Have you ever noticed how a person doing a shaky little dance with zero rhythm racks up 10,000 likes?

Meanwhile, someone else, who has been in the circus, pulls off a one-arm balance after 10 years of training—and the internet yawns?

Yeah, same.

It’s not just frustrating—it’s algorithmic heartbreak. The louder, sillier, more absurd the content, the more it spreads. And if you’re wondering why that pattern feels eerily familiar…cue Donald Trump.

Look, I’m not here to bash anyone (really, I’m not). But let’s be honest: the guy’s superpower is being the mosquito in the room. Buzzing. Constant. Irritating. Impossible to ignore.

We know we shouldn’t give it attention… and yet, we do. Why?

Because our brains are wired to follow what’s loud. What’s bright. What shakes the room. Even if what shakes the room isn’t what builds our life.

And that’s the issue.

We don’t have an attention problem—we have an intention problem.

It’s not that we can’t focus. It’s that we don’t train ourselves to focus on what matters.

The truth is: our digital diet is shaping our mental health, our relationships, and our nervous systems—one scroll at a time. And if we keep feeding our mind loud voices, clickbait chaos, and algorithm junk food, we can’t be surprised when our nervous system feels like it’s living off Red Bull and rage.

So how do we fix this? We start here:

1. Be the Water, Not the Soda.

If we want to stop drinking soda, the worst thing to do is repeat “I won’t drink soda” all day. We’ll be thinking about it nonstop.

But when we say “I will drink water,” suddenly our mind recalibrates. It has something to move toward. The same goes for attention. Don’t just say “I won’t scroll through crap anymore.” Ask instead: What do I want to feed my attention?

Curate your content like your nervous system depends on it. Because it does.

2. We Don’t Need to Scream to Be Seen.

We’ve confused volume with value. The truth? Authenticity whispers. It doesn’t jiggle on command. It shows up consistently, tells the truth (even when it’s not sexy), and connects through presence—not performance.

Make your reels anyway.

Share the thoughtful caption.

Write the post that helps one person feel less alone.

We don’t need more noise.

We need more of you.

3. Don’t Blame the Mosquito. Close the Window.

You can’t shame the algorithm into kindness. You can’t shout over people who are shouting louder than you. But you can walk out of the room.

Unfollow. Mute. Recalibrate.

Not to pretend the chaos doesn’t exist—but so you don’t live in it.

Because let’s be real: If we’re constantly watching the flashiest person in the room, we’ll start doubting our own magic. And our magic? It’s not a quick fix. It’s a long burn. And it matters more.

4. We Still Have a Choice.

We can re-train our focus. We can choose presence over panic. We can teach our nervous system that stillness is not the same as failure.

Even if our one-arm balance only gets 46 views.

Even if our honesty feels like it’s whispering into the void.

Even if the mosquito still buzzes.

Let it buzz.

And keep dancing your dance anyway—the one that comes from truth, not tactics. Because a good life isn’t about who wins the algorithm.

It’s about who still feels whole when the screen turns off.

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