There isn’t a person I’ve spoken to who hasn’t experienced big things in 2025.

It’s certainly been a year of lessons, transformations, reflections, losses, gains, pain, healing, and with luck, blessings.

It’s been a year of feeling things we thought we’d resolved. Shedding parts of ourselves to make way for change and growth. It’s been a year where the unresolved things have come messily to the surface, fighting to be seen and heard. It’s been a year that’s kicked our ass, but I believe, it’s for our greater purpose. To help us grow. To help us heal. To help us evolve. To help us transition into what’s next.

2025 has been a year that’s stripped us down. Shown our vulnerabilities. Made us face our fears. And if we’ve allowed these things to move through us, it has made room to step into 2026 with renewed vision, perspective, and insight.

My list of 2025 learnings is long. My reflections deep. And I’d like to share some with you.

1. Energy

The 2025 energy has been something else. At times chaotic. All encompassing. A force of nature. Scattered and messy. Draining yet invigorating. There’s been heightened sexual energy that’s reminded me of the woman I am and the power that holds. For those of us who were ready, it held a mirror up and pushed us to face the things we’d been hiding, masking, or buried. It whipped in like a cyclone, and we could either run from it or face it. It brought learnings and gifts if you were brave enough to welcome them. When you learn to feel the energy around you and tap into the energy within you, big things happen.

2. Grief

Grief is what I do. I support the grieving. I sit with them in their pain, and I witness their despair and losses. Grief also lives within me. I feel it deeply. It’s a part of who I am because every loss has made me shed one identity and form a new one, a new me that lives after the losses. I’ve grown around my grief, but it never fully goes. There has been significant grief in 2025. I’ve watched friends face profound loss. I’ve held people in the midst of their grief. I’ve seen the affect of unresolved grief bubbling to the surface. I’ve seen the fear of those experiencing anticipatory and ambiguous losses. And throughout it all, I’ve felt my own grief remind me she’s still there, ever so quietly in the background, pushing me to grow a little more. Pushing me to heal what sits unhealed. Pushing me to feel what needs to be felt.

3. Patience

The collective patience has been tested in 2025. Whether it be the countless and ongoing clusterf*cks on the political world stage. The ever growing toxicity spewing out of social media. AI convincing the naive and gullible that pandas on treadmills are real. Hearing another woman has been murdered by a current or previous intimate partner and laws don’t change. Watching people struggle in a greedy and selfish world that isn’t built for fairness or equality. Or perhaps just the frazzled patience of a woman in perimenopause who, on some days, has no f*cks left to give. But if we acknowledge that lack of patience and sit with what’s triggered it, we gain insight. We gain the ability to transform it. We can do better and be better.

4. Courage

2025 has shown me the incredible courage of some important people in my life. I watched my daughter push herself to the limits, emotionally, mentally, energetically, and physically as she trained and prepared for her first international body building competition. Pushing through some limiting beliefs and questioning herself repeatedly. I watched her step on stage and own it and I saw her walk off stage a winner and now professional body builder.

I watched my dear friend lose her mum, only a year after losing her dad. She showed such bravery, strength, and resilience. I watch my dad, three years after losing my mum, the love of his life, doing his best. Showing up for his family. But most of all honouring my mum in everything he does. I bore witness to clients grow and people in crisis stay safe for another day. I started studying again, evolving in my career and am proud of my own courage, to keep stepping outside my comfort zone. When you find the courage to follow your path, you become more aligned.

5. Intuition

Hmmm, this is a big one. Maybe it’s just me? My intuition has been on high alert. I feel things before someone speaks. It’s like a TV series and I’ve skipped ahead a show or two and have a sixth sense of what’s coming. There are people whose presence brings me good feelings and energy. There are people I need to remove myself from as soon as they step into the room because my insides have set off an alarm system. There has been heightened anxiety at times that could have easily sent me spiralling, but instead, I stopped, tuned into myself, and asked the questions I needed answers to, and those answers came. 2025 has really taught me to stop and listen to that inner voice and trust what she’s saying. She’s never wrong.

6. Self-awareness

I’ve always thought people had some level of self-awareness. Unfortunately, 2025 slapped that right out of me. No matter how much you give the benefit of the doubt and hope someone will reflect on their behaviour and become more aware of their actions, some people will never develop this gift. This year has shown me the insecurity masquerading as ego will have people behaving in the most defensive and appalling ways. People who blame everything and everyone for things not going the way they want. People who use gossip as a way to connect. Sadly, self-awareness is not an attribute we all have been blessed with.

7. Fear

Many of us have faced fears in 2025. Whether it’s the fear of losing a loved one. The fear of how we cope after we lose a loved one. The fear of the future. The fear of our own mortality. The fear of love, or perhaps lack thereof. The fear of being alone. I stepped into fear a few times this year. The fear of a suspicious breast lump terrified me. The fear when I momentarily lost sight of my three-year-old granddaughter in a busy shop had me on the verge of panic. The fear of stepping more and more into my power when I felt powerless for so long. Could I do it? What would it look like? Fear can be paralysing. But fear teaches us, and it’s been one of my greatest teachers this year.

8. Projection

There’s always been projection from those who are too afraid or unwilling to do their inner work. But 2025 has really highlighted the amount of people who are unable to acknowledge the role they play in relationship dynamics or accept any responsibility when things go wrong. Fearing their own feelings, thoughts, and behaviour, they throw that out onto others. Blaming, always blaming someone else. It’s a defense mechanism to alleviate their own anxiety, and this year has shown how much work needs to be done on a collective level.

9. Connection

2025 has been a huge year of connection. As I’ve become more in alignment with myself and become comfortable standing in my power, the more I connect. And those connections have a new depth to them. I’ve become connected to people on such a deep level that it’s surprised them. Sometimes, we need to be hermits and allow ourselves the time and space to ground and connect with ourselves and the universe. The more connected we are to ourselves and the world around us, the more genuinely connected we become to those we wish to be connected to. Stripping away the white noise of the world, removing all masks, and being your authentic self will have you connecting in the most beautiful ways.

10. Slowing Down

2025 for most people has been a year of speed. The days, weeks, and months have sped by and left many in a tailspin. But it’s also prompted many of us to slow down, and when we don’t heed the gentle message, we’ve been given a much harsher message. In 2024, I developed a frozen shoulder and the lack of range of motion coupled with the pain and lack of sleep should have been enough to stop me in my tracks and slow down. Of course it didn’t, that being my first mistake. The universe being the teacher that she is, said “game on” and decided to challenge me with a mix of uncomfortable peri-menopause symptoms, on top of the frozen shoulder. Did I listen? Well, no. That being my second mistake. So she threw in a breast lump for added motivation. I took heed because she was bound to send me a fourth lesson and I’m not that much of a slow learner.

11. Forgiveness

This can be a tough one. Forgiveness without closure. Forgiveness without an apology. But the way I look at forgiveness is forgiving a situation. Forgiving yourself. It may not feel appropriate to forgive a person, but forgiving the situation allows you to let go a little. Holding onto pain, anger, bitterness, and resentment only harms us. A few years ago, I started practicing ho’oponopono, which is a traditional Hawaiian practice, and I’ve found it profoundly helps with forgiveness. “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” It’s a beautiful practice and sends forgiveness out into the world, but most of all, it sends forgiveness to ourselves. If you’ve not heard of this before, do yourself a favour and google it.

12. Grace

Sometimes one of the hardest things to do is to extend grace, especially to ourselves. Someone said to me today, “You need to allow yourself grace.” I say this often to my clients, friends, and loved ones but somehow forget to apply it to myself. Treating yourself with the same kindness, understanding, and accepting your own humanness can be hard. It’s been a learning for me, and this year has been particularly good at reminding me that I too deserve grace. With grace comes a deeper understanding of yourself. The masks are off. It’s a vulnerable place to be and it comes with an honesty and rawness that helps you become a better person.

So, 2025 has been a big year. There’s been a lot of universal shifting energy. Some people have felt the ground disappear from beneath them. Others have faced significant loss and pain. There’s been breakdowns and breakthroughs. It’s been turbulent yet many feel like they have awakened from a deep sleep. It’s been exhausting yet also exhilarating. It’s been a contradiction of energy, feelings, and emotions. It’s opened the gates for change for those who were ready. Many saw it as the catalyst to attune themselves and bring their world into alignment.

For me, 2025 did all these things, and the lessons have been profound.

2026, I hope you’re ready for me.

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