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May 13, 2020

Venus Retrograde: How to Not F*ck Up your Love Life. {May 13 to June 25}

 

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Are you thinking about cosmetic surgery, becoming engaged, marrying, buying a luxury car, or making a big investment?

If so—you could be doing these things at the wrong time, because Venus is retrograde from May 13 to June 25, 2020.

What is the problem?

You may be familiar with the frustration of Mercury retrograde, when the world goes “haywire,” three to four times a year.

But Venus retrograde can also provide us with a special set of problems we may not know about. Venus only goes retrograde every 18 months (for 40 to 43 days), as it will from May 13 to June 25, 2020. This important event may have a huge effect on our lives.

In your horoscope, the planet Venus rules beauty, art, social relationships, partnerships, romance, love, values, money, and financial security.

Whenever a planet is retrograde, it’s not a favorable time for initiating activities in the area that a planet rules because your perception is off-kilter. In the case of Venus retrograde, you should slow down and reassess what—and who—you value.

If you have plans to beautify yourself, make a change in your love life, or make a financial investment of some sort, stop and re-consider them. Read these seven tips before you to take any action in these areas.

Seven dos and don’ts during Venus retrograde:

1. Avoid trying to make yourself more beautiful during this time.

Venus rules beauty and aesthetics. During the retrograde, there is a lack of clarity around your efforts to make yourself more beautiful. Your emotional state of mind causes you to be less objective and make unwise decisions about how to enhance your attractiveness. Therefore, the retrograde period is not an ideal time to change one’s appearance.

So, don’t begin any procedures or surgeries to enhance your beauty, such as plastic surgery on the face or lip, breast implants, or liposuction. This is the wrong time to change your hairstyle, hair color, do a makeover, or purchase a new wardrobe.

Wait until Venus goes direct to make any of these decisions. You’ll have thoughtfully reflected, thoroughly researched, and objectively arrived at the best way for you to become more physically attractive.

2. Avoid getting engaged or married.

Normally, you may be clearheaded and realistic about your relationship, its problems, and its limitations. But this is not the case during Venus retrograde, because your perception is altered. You’re not able to see the obvious, causing you to misread signals that would otherwise be red flags. (For example: “I was sure he really wanted children right away. I didn’t realize he was adamant about building his business first.”)

Before you make wedding plans or run away to Las Vegas to get married, wait until Venus turns direct to get a more balanced perspective on whether your relationship really satisfies your needs and what you want in a marriage. You’ll be able to more realistically assess if it will satisfy you in the long-term.

3. Be realistic about a new relationship that begins during Venus retrograde.

Venus rules love, relationships, and partnerships of all kinds. The retrograde is not a time for “moving forward,” new beginnings, or changing the status quo. You’re not operating from a practical place of objectivity about your needs. Your heart is plugged into love, romance, and sensuality. You may be so attracted to someone that you cannot see how they can do any wrong.

If you’ve just met someone, just enjoy them without feeling a need to tell all your relatives and friends, “This is the one.” If you’ve been dating someone for a while, take a breath before you escalate your romantic commitment. If you’ve been in a serious relationship for some time, hold off a little longer to propose.

4. Evaluate your current relationship now.

One of the problems you face during Venus retrograde is not being in touch with exactly what and who you value. The person you’re dating now may appear more fabulous than they turn out to be. Consequently, starting a relationship during the retrograde may cause you to look back and ask yourself, “What was I thinking?” It’s easy to have a change of heart, no matter how infatuated you were with this person during the retrograde period.

Use this time to get in touch with your own feelings about a relationship and whether it really meets your needs. If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you’ll find yourself becoming more aware of relationship problems. If you’re in the early stages of a relationship, it’s important to realize that whatever dissatisfaction you’re experiencing will only get worse with time.

Take stock of the basic differences between you and the other person, so that you can determine if you can live with them. Ask yourself if you can compromise or make an adjustment so that your relationship can work more cohesively. Relationships that have been especially challenging or problematic may come to an end during the retrograde.

If you’re unsure about a new or old relationship, avoid making any emotional, hasty decisions to commit to it or end it during this period. Normally, existing relationships aren’t adversely affected by the retrograde (as long as you don’t decide to get engaged or married). When Venus goes direct, you’ll retain the love and romance that was there, but you’ll have a greater sense of realism as to whether it’s truly a fulfilling relationship for you.

5. Be wary of an old relationship that returns to your life.

Old friends and past love relationships will often re-enter your life during the Venus retrograde. The return of a former love may complicate a current relationship. It’s as if a sense of romantic nostalgia and longing seep into your consciousness, bringing an old relationship back into your world.

Unfortunately, love may not be better the second time around. So, if an old flame comes back into your life, be warned that it may not work out in the long run.

However, it’s a good time to deal with any unfinished business—such as a former partner who cheated on you now returning to fess up to his/her infidelity. Perhaps you may enjoy them one last time, or have a chance to finally complete your relationship and let go of it.

6. Be careful of buying things, especially luxury items.

It’s not a good time to purchase luxury items. During this period, you’re so enamored with beauty that you want to make extravagant choices, and you’ll totally forget about that budget you planned to live by.

Avoid buying any big-ticket items such as a house, car, or boat, because you’re likely to overspend and find that your purchase backfires on you in some way. Either they become money pits or such headaches that you’ll regret your purchase. (Remember the old adage: “The two best days in the life of a boat owner are the day he bought his boat and the day he sold it.”)

You’ll become inexplicably attracted to beauty and luxury. Even if you don’t know the difference between Van Gogh and Van Halen, your aesthetic sense is on steroids. So, whatever you do—don’t buy art. You’ll find it impossible to objectively judge the value or price of what you’re buying. Once Venus goes direct, you run the risk of discovering that the art that seemed so appealing six weeks ago—isn’t.

This advice also goes for any beautiful clothes you’re tempted to buy. What looks gorgeous during Venus retrograde can turn into the ugliest outfit you ever bought. Your lack of practicality causes you to purchase items that you’ll end up not liking (and that you can’t return). If you ignore this advice, prepare to open and close your closet repeatedly as you slap your head and ask, “What was I thinking when I bought that?”

7. Think twice about making a big investment.

The natural ruler of the second astrological house is Venus. Venus has dominion over your fiscal affairs and financial activities. So, when Venus is retrograde, be cautious about making investments and spending money. Your perception is off, causing you to make financial decisions from an emotional place rather than a more objective one.

Often, investments are inflated or overvalued at this time and will eventually lose their value when Venus goes direct. To make matters worse, Venus retrograde often produces an unpredictable environment where financial markets unexpectedly change directions, causing major reversals. This makes it especially tricky to prudently invest.

Make good use of this period by reviewing all your investments and re-thinking all your financial plans for your future.

Conclusion

Keep these seven tips in mind as you make plans for your future. To help ensure your decisions are successful in the important matters that concern your beauty, love life, and finances, be willing to wait the 43 days until Venus goes direct on June 25th.

P.S. Yes, I believe that a second wave of COVID-19 will occur by the time Venus goes direct June 25th.

If you want to know where your personal transits are—to see if they are affecting you right now, go to the Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. Then, read about each transit that’s been discussed in other Elephant Journal articles.

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