I ❤️LOVE❤️ social media !!
And if you’re reading this post chances are you do too ? I know a lot of my closest friends and family hit the unfollow button a long time ago because the overshare annoys them but after watching The Social Dilemma last night I’ve been reflecting a lot about my personal social media habits.

I’m proud of myself for putting boundaries in place a long time ago to ensure that my relationship with my social media stays healthy
Simple things like turning off all notifications on my phone LITERALLY everything!! Only WhatsApp as that’s the platform I communicate with Rob and he is the only person on this earth that I want to receive notifications from and when my phone vibrates I get so excited
To know that he is thinking about me
I also made a commitment to myself recently not to use my phone under any circumstances when driving and I’m so proud of my self for sticking to this because nothing is more important than my families safety. Whenever I feel myself craving some digital heroin I have started doing pelvic floor exercises it’s a great way to pass the time and means I won’t piss myself when I sneeze later in life double win ?
A lot of people are going to watch that show and become absolute haters of social media because the information scares the hell out of you I would encourage you to have a serious think about ways that you can keep a healthy relationship with your accounts
I will tell you honestly of course I feel validation from comments, likes, followers and all that superficial bullshit and I own it but I promise you that it is ONLY one of the sources.
I remind my husband regularly to tell me I’m beautiful and sexy and that’s the most important source of validation I need
I also get told regularly by my kids that I’m smart, successful, pretty and that’s the second most important source I need affirmation from
The third is my family, friends, clients and strangers that stop to tell me that they’re proud of me or that they think I’m making good decisions, they like my outfit, they notice my body looks healthy and I thank them and accept the compliments genuinely
Then my fourth source is social media when people tell me how awesome I am I think that’s cool but it’s just reassurance it’s not defining to me at all because it’s usually people that I don’t regularly see

Another strategy I use is before I post; READ YOUR ROOM
If your husband is sitting next to you put the phone down and talk to him be present tell them you love them and listen
If your kids are sitting by your feet then hold them and enjoy the moment
If your out with friends look them in the eye and be present
You can post later when you’re alone

With the release of this Doco a lot of people are going to delete their accounts I know they’ll be back it’s only temporary! And if you need a break that’s amazing to do so when I had my last mental breakdown I did the same thing
But if you want to create long lasting change I find what works best is to take inventory of the information you’re allowing in to your beautiful mind. Go through and unfriend anyone that doesn’t want to see you win.
Block any ex boyfriends or old friends that you’re secretly hoping are checking your account to see how well your doing now it’s not healthy and chances are they don’t give a f what you’re up to now and it’s probably making your posts less authentic wanting to share content based on other opinions.
If you love someone but their posts make you roll your eyes stay friends just unfollow them so when you’re in the mood for them you can look them up and view their over the top bs on your terms (this is most of my followers haha)

When you hit POST make sure that it’s wholesome quality or funny content
I don’t know about you but I’m terrible at keeping a journal and I always intend to. Imagine your social media fingerprint is your journal to your self FOR yourself not for anyone else.
Imagine it’s your LEGACY to your children. If that looks like a highlight reel then own it! I know I want my kids to remember me for everything I’m proud of good bad or ugly.

If you’re using your social media for people to feel sorry for you I promise you know one cares how sick your kids are or how many times they had a cold this winter. If you need to talk to someone to let a load off call a friend or see a Psycologist they will actually help you feel heard not strangers on the internet you went to primary school with twenty years ago

Remember no one is better qualified at being you. Everyone needs to turn up the dial at being themselves and embrace all their eccentricities. Talk openly and honestly about what makes them unique and forget the sheep mentality of pretending our asses look bigger than they do in real life guys

Use your platforms to help keep you accountable at setting and reaching your goals forget what people think even if you miss the mark it’s important you document your intentions so that you can see how far you’ve come in five years

My two cents this Thursday take it ez guys ✌?

P.S. this pic is for my highlight reel cos now I’m a cer-ti-fied Dj yeet