March 3, 2013

Two Words that Can Destroy Your Life: “It’s Okay.” ~ Sarvasmarana Nithya

The words we utter are a direct reflection of who we think we are.

When reflecting deeply on your own life, how many times have you uttered defeatist words while procrastinating or trying to dodge some responsibility?

For instance, say you made a declaration to wake up one hour early every day to start a yoga practice or start a new exercise regimen. You start out with such enthusiasm and vigor, but on day three when the alarm goes off, you instead mutter to yourself, “it’s okay.” You roll over and go back to sleep with the presumption that tomorrow you will start again.

How about when you decide to start eating healthier, only to reach for a bag of chips or chocolate (not that I have anything against chocolate) after a stressful day? We fall, not only off the wagon, but into guilt. I don’t know about you, but I cannot have just one. The whole bag must be consumed.

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When We Continually Hit the “Snooze Button” of Life

Self-destruction is disguised in these two little insidious words: “It’s okay.”

In the beginning these justifications all start out very small and innocent, but the magnitude and impact they have on our consciousness can be detrimental.  Once we accept failure, it becomes acceptable and easier to continue the habit of breaking commitments to others and ourselves.

How many times have these words gotten you into serious trouble?

It’s okay, I am just doing a little harmless flirting with my co-worker. Before you know it, you’re having a full fledged affair and in so deep you can’t get out without others being hurt. Maybe you were going through a rough time in your life financially and you needed a little extra cash. It’s okay, I can just take a little money out of the cash register now to get me through. Next thing you know, you’re fired and charged with stealing.

“It’s okay” becomes a continuous, unconscious mantra which we live by.

People start losing trust in us and we start losing trust in ourselves. We start carrying a deep resentment inside. This is how the pattern of failure begins: we lose an inner sense of integrity. Integrity means honoring the words we utter to ourselves and to others. Some of us may be very good at keeping our commitment to others but when it comes to ourselves, we cheat with the “it’s okay” attitude.

This puts us in a continual state that lacks authenticity, where we can’t live to our full potential. We start tolerating our inauthenticity; thus becoming insensitive to authenticity.

How do we regain trust ourselves?

By finding integrity with the words we utter. Honoring them no matter what.

Our words are our life. We are the manifestation of our thoughts. We have the power to create a magnificent life and relationship with others. When we trust our self, we trust life and when we trust life, we trust existence.


Sarvasmarana is spiritual sadhaka and enlightenment junkie sharing and expressing the divine that lives within. She has lived in India, off and on, the last few years while studying with her guru Paramahamsa Nithyananda—a rare living incarnation from South India. When Sarvasmarana is not teaching yoga, meditation, Kriyas or offering intuitive advice she is either levitating (yes, levitating!) or volunteering at the Nithyananda Vedic Temple. Sarvasmarana also writes for other yogic publications and is the author of the upcoming book From Inner Sleeping to Inner Awakening. She believes that when one transforms oneself, we are transforming the entire cosmos.



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Ed: Brianna Bemel
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