November 20, 2014

Why “Single” is my Relationship Status.


I’m single.

There is such freedom in those words yet it took me a long time to get “here.”

To be able to speak the words without hesitation or a hitch in my breath. For most of my adolescent life I worried about boys, then of course as I grew up, men.

I’ve been married and divorced twice, dated a lot and been in several long term relationships. In short, I’ve never really been “alone.”

I’ve always been more worried about being half of two rather than becoming a whole one.

I’m not saying that the potential for great love doesn’t exist for me down the road but presently I am good with the idea of singularity.

 “You cannot find yourself by going into the past. You can find yourself by coming into the present.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

I like the freedom of it.

The freedom to be me, not to be defined by a man or as a person in a couple.

 “Be you.” ~ Grey Eagle (Jack Dowdy)

I do have some wonderful male friends that I love dearly. They inspire me and motivate me. In fact, my best friend is a man and we share a deep soul connection.

But I have decided to be picky when it comes to romantic relationships. Selective even. And why not?

I don’t know that I’ll ever walk down the aisle again or that “I do” would be words I would ever again say. In fact, I don’t know that I will ever be “in love” again. I’m just enjoying the view along this journey.

My journey.

I’m taking my time treading slowly along this trail that I admit can sometimes be lonely, but it’s also quiet, mysterious, exciting!

“Birds make great sky-circles of their freedom.

How do they learn it?

They fall and falling,

they’re given wings.” ~ Rumi

I’m finding out what I want. Who I am. Finding my self-worth. What I want to do with my life singularly.

For someone who has felt alone for most of her life, even when surrounded by the people that I love, I am now accepting this sacred open space.

In many ways, I created it myself (of course, with the help of the Universe) and I’m just letting it be.

Going with the natural flow of life. I am at peace for the first time in a long time. It took a long time to get here but I have arrived.

I am free!


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Author: Annie R. Towns

Editor: Ashleigh Hitchcock

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