March 19, 2015

A Spring Life Makeover.

Mariana Montes de Oca/flickr

Ahh, a new season!

And it seems right now is the time to hit the universal reset button for new beginnings and fresh starts.

If you’re not wanting to hire a coach or sign up for a life makeover, keep reading. I’m going to show you how to take charge of your own life, and enjoy your own do over.

First step? Take a look around your life. This means your car, garage, office, desk, closets and home. Like what you see? Great, then you’re probably making a ton of money and sitting on a beach somewhere.

No? Well, let’s take a peek into your personal life. The way we do anything is the way we do everything.

Whether or not you’re an organized person living a minimalistic life or a clutter-a-holic, I’m betting you’ve got your share of excess somewhere, so stay with me here.

Clutter is not only bad for your health, it blocks the abundance of new energy trying to flow in life. 

There’s literally no room for new energy. I can almost guarantee that if my client is overweight or having money troubles, there is a source of clutter or excess in their life.

Holding on “just in case” sends a strong signal of poverty consciousness. Someone out there can use what you’re not using and might really need it. Trusting that when you need something, you’ll be able to buy it or borrow it, sends a signal of trust to the Universe. When we hold on too tightly to what we don’t need, it sends a signal of poverty consciousness.

Holding on to “just in case” items you haven’t used in years also sends a signal of fear. Excess items block fresh new energies from flowing into our life.

Ever wonder why you feel so relaxed on vacation or at a spa? The rooms are sparse and functional, energies flow freely.

So let’s start with your bedroom:

Go through all of your drawers and closets. If you haven’t worn something in two years, you’re never going to wear it—I promise. If you haven’t loved it enough to find a match or accessory to make it work, you don’t love it enough to keep it.

Studies have shown that we wear the same 11 outfits week after week anyway. Less is, truly, the new more. When we have less, we tend to mix and match and creativity flows.

If you stand in your closet not sure what to wear in the morning, it’s a sign that you have too much. Keeping old clothes that used to fit? They are either a constant reminder of what you perceive as a current failure or a guarantee that you will indeed gain that weight back and need to wear them.

Think of the symbolism here. Let them go. If you lose the weight you’ll want new clothes anyway, and if you do gain the weight back, you deserve something that makes you feel fabulous, not dumpy like those old “I’m heavy” jeans.

Sheets and Bed: If you’re like most people, you’ve replaced sheets but not thrown the old ones away. If you’re having trouble letting go, think of homeless people who don’t have sheets, then drop them off at a local donation site.

Blankets? Same thought process. I recently noticed I had three down comforters—and I’m not even a packrat! One of those is being donated this week. Sure it was expensive, but I’m not using it and the idea of someone out there being cold at night gives me the strength to say goodbye.

Feeling really brave? Replace your bed. There is nothing more powerful for your relationship than to do a complete mattress do over with fresh energy that hasn’t been cried on, argued on or shared with another person.

Now let’s look under the bed. There should be nothing under it, period. Shoes stored there? Get a behind-the-door rack. The energy needs to flow so you can get a good night’s sleep.

Now let’s look at the bath: 

How many half used jars and bottles do you have under that sink and in your closets? I get a cheap thrill out of using the last of something before allowing myself to buy another. Make up? Do we really need all of it? Same rule as your clothing.  If you haven’t used it, lose it.

Towels have the same rule as sheets. Get rid of the old ones when you buy the new ones. Go through your medicine cabinet and throw out expired products, as well as those “just in case” items. Remember to trust that if you need some medicine, you’re going to be able to afford it, rather than keeping expired products that could be dangerous. Scrap the scraps of soap in your shower, too. Feel how abundant you feel with one big bar of fresh soap.

Next, let’s take it to your office:

Consider having six pens and no more. Buying pens and paper can be a habit like any other. Go through your piles of paper and either file them, transfer the data somewhere or recycle them. Business cards accumulating? Spend a rainy Sunday afternoon transferring the data and then throw them away!

Go through your books and donate the ones you’ll never read again. Some reference books and books that you love to read over and over should be kept, but let’s face it—you don’t need to keep your Office 04 for Dummies when it’s 2013.  I actually found a farmer’s almanac from 1994 the other day while helping a client fish through their shelves.

Your kitchen:

Like the bath, the kitchen can be a place where half empty bottles collect as we buy new items. Go through your refrigerator and get rid of the duplicate bottles of condiments. I’m notorious for letting herbal remedy bottles collect. Old dishes that aren’t sentimental yet beat up and chipped? Donate them. You’ll be surprised by how good you feel when you toss all of those plastic cups and mismatched coffee cups. Tupperware cabinet? You know what to do.

My thoughts on gifts and sentimental items:

If someone gives you a gift, it is yours to do what you want with it. If you don’t love it, keep the memory of the person and donate the gift to someone who might love it. Feel overwhelmed with guilt? Take a photo of the item and then donate it.   Things you don’t love in your home and your closet wear down your energy.



Children’s toys?

Keeping your children’s toys well past the time they’re grown doesn’t make you closer to them. It’s much better to give those toys and clothes away to families in need and instead enjoy the time you’d normally spend walking around those boxes playing with your kiddos.

Trust me. Clutter weighs you down whether you realize it or not. Grab a friend or a coach to give you courage and go for it. Once you start, you’ll be hooked on the feelings of freedom that come, and I promise, those feelings are worth it.

My favorite tip for clients? Start by putting 29 things per room in a bag. Yep, that’s what I said: 29 items from each room. Now give, sell or recycle the contents.

Clutter and holding on to things is a big fat sign to the universe that you don’t believe you’ll have the resources to replace or buy what you need, if and when you ever need it again. Soon, you’ll get into the flow of letting go and be surprised by how quickly your life starts to de-clutter in symbolic ways.

Feeling stuck?

Ask yourself these 3 questions: Do I love it? Do I use it? Does it work?

Clear it out. Give it away. And trust that if you need it again you’ll have the resources to replace it.

Life consists of a series of starts and finishes, so why not take charge and set the fertile ground for your own fresh start this season?


Want to take a deeper dive and go for a full fresh start?  My 40-day Personal Reboot program is about to begin again. Give me 40 days and I’ll help you change your whole life.  his is truly unlike any program you’ve ever experienced before. Get more details and register here.



Author: Tamara Star

Editor: Emily Bartran

Photo: Mariana Montes de Oca/flickr

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