November 10, 2015

What to Do When You’re Evolving & Your Longtime Friends Are on Different Paths.


Have you ever experienced a time in your life when you felt that you were evolving?

You were reaching a higher state of consciousness?

You were “awakening”?

You were living at a higher vibration than before?

It can honestly be one of the most confusing situations to go through. You find yourself actively questioning your thought processes, habits, behaviors, and doing the same for those around you. You dive deep into every moment because you are searching for the truth that is all around you.

You’re in tune with what your body is telling you.

In tune to what the Universe is sending your way.

In tune to what the Universe takes away from you.

Evolution is an important process that we all go through. Regardless of whether or not we surrender to it, it will happen. When we surrender ourselves to the process, and trust that it will shape us into more positive and effective individuals, we can find peace in the process.

When you’re evolving, you may find that you develop new relationships with individuals who are on the same vibrational waves as yourself. They, too, are on their own spiritual awakening journey. These relationships are built on positive common ground and understanding. These relationships are smooth and rich. They embody lightness and depth, as we are working out our karmas and finding our dharma, our path.

When you find someone who shakes your soul and allows you to awaken to thoughts, ideals and situations that you have never experienced, you have found a connection that will never be broken. You will always remember that person as the one who held the lamp on your journey when you were lost.

Connection is key to evolving.

Humans are meant to feel connected to other individuals. When we have lost all connection, we are detached from feelings of happiness, love, contentment, and community—“sangha”. Modern society has pushed us further and further apart by segregating people on their differences. But in all actuality, we are all the same. We are one. We are all love. Thankfully, those who have lifted the veil see the truth: that we were all cut from the same cloth. I am you and you are me.

As we evolve, we create many new connections with individuals whom we feel we have been friends with for many lifetimes. However, one may also discover that their longtime relationships seem to be coming to an end or a pause. This can be very difficult for all parties involved. And it’s common that, as we grow, we may no longer have the same interests as our old friends. But this doesn’t break that connection, that bond that was made when you first became friends. We are all destined to meet people in our lives for reasons we may never know. Embrace each and every soul you have met, because they have helped lead you to this moment, whether you know the reasoning or not.

So how do we know when to cut ties?

It’s imperative to realize that you must first follow your own heart and intuition. If this pulls you towards others and away from some, there’s probably a reason. But we should never allow that connection to fade—and it won’t if we are conscious of our actions. Knowing that we may no longer share the same interests does not take away from the love that has been shared for some time. We don’t have to constantly feed that fire of love, for that connection is always there. And you may come back to it time and time again, or you may not. The key is to be content with wherever you’re lead.

A few more tips for the journey:

  1. Monitor how much energy you share with others. Reserve some of it for you because there will be hard days when you are unsure of your dharma and you feel weak. This is when you reach out to your community, and they will show you love and energy.
  2. Be true to yourself. Spiritual work can be hard, but it’s always rewarding. If there are people who do not understand where you are going, simply tell them, “I’m not sure where I’m going either, but I have faith and trust in the truth to lead me where I’m intended to be.”
  3. Allow yourself to pass no judgment, for when you pass no judgment, you show others the path. “Be the change you wish to see in this world.”
  4. And, lastly, remember that love is the answer. Love is always there. And when you are on the path of enlightenment, you should keep love close to you at all times. Love will guide the way!


Author: Hannah Hilton

Editor: Caroline Beaton

Image: Flickr/db Photography | Demi-Brooke

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