August 11, 2018

How to Live a Zen-like Existence even when Life feels Chaotic.

“Peace. it does not mean to be in a place where there is no trouble, noise, or hard work. it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart” ~ Lady Gaga


Registering for gadgets and gizmos for a baby shower before the birth of my first child overwhelmed me.

I stood at the little, local store numb. Many women had shared their favorite finds and encouraged me to get them, too. I remember sitting down in a nursery glider to get a mental grip. 

One necessity, in particular, made no sense to me: a white noise machine. 

Why on earth would I want to waste electricity on a noisemaker? It didn’t play soothing wave sounds or music, it made the awful sound televisions used to make when they were stuck between channels. This loud static was to help a child sleep?

To me, it was a headache waiting in a box with a price tag on it. I started to question my friend’s sanity. It was a firm, “No, thank you,” from me.

As time marched on, I gave birth to more children. None of them had the “luxury” of a white noise machine. They slept as all children do, some days miraculously through the night, and others teething and fussing their sweet faces off. We survived without it.

Back then, my alone time was whittled down to moments like standing in a long checkout line. Those huge “we sell everything under one roof!” kind of stores served as my savasana.

I was mentally exhausted from parenthood, but proud that I knocked off my list at one stop. It was a small victory. I allowed myself to completely space out while standing there. It was common to hear a snappy, “Ma’am? Excuse me, ma’am?” before I’d snap out of it. Afterward, I felt refreshed, as I had just woken up from a nap.

What was it about those big box stores that allowed me to drift off into a zen-like state?

The white noise.

The buzz and hum of life vibrated a sweet lullaby. My thoughts stopped. I couldn’t tell you what happened during those minutes, because nothing happened. I just stood there. It was my peaceful haven.

My attitude inverted when I snapped back to reality. Suddenly, I was smiling and chatty. I had rested and felt joyful—and it was contagious. My grin brought gladness from those around me. It was that simple.   

As the saying goes, “In the midst of chaos, find peace.” And I did. 

Did I regret not buying a white noise machine for my children? No.

Yet, did I regret scoffing off my friend’s suggestion? Yes.

Since then, times have changed. My children are at school, work, or practices most of the day leaving me with plenty of alone time. I can even nap, if I need one.

However, the lesson I learned in those earlier days stuck with me. While waiting in line, a stoplight, or for anything:

Be still and rest,

Return to the joyful noise refreshed, and share the feeling.

Need some peace now? Try it.

Share how you find peace in the midst of chaos. We look forward to hearing from you.


Leave a Thoughtful Comment

Read 0 comments and reply

Top Contributors Latest

Kate Fleming  |  Contribution: 87,120

author: Kate Fleming

Image: M. Frascella/Flickr

Editor: Lieselle Davidson