August 25, 2020

The Love Affair we Should really Be Having.

Throughout our lives most of us can agree that we’ve all sought one thing consistently—love.

A love affair is one of the most exciting experiences we can have.

However, we often miss the most amazing and spectacular affair we can have—a love affair with ourselves!

It’s time for us to realize that the love we experience with another person is one we deserve to have with ourselves. The connection we desire shouldn’t be limited to another being.

Let your mind wander for a moment, and imagine all the different definitions that a self-love affair sparks within you. I have seen individuals blush, grin, giggle, and stare up at the sky in wonderment, all with similar questions, “What does that mean? Does it just mean to love myself? But she used the word affair…”

The key between entering a love affair with yourself, and cultivating the concept of self-love, is to bring intensity, dedication, curiosity, primal passion, and sheer sexual connection to your self-relationship.

Self-love affairs will ignite:


A self-love affair shifts us from dispassionately loving ourselves to becoming passionate about our existence and experiences. We are on fire about who we are.


Love affairs naturally encourage intimate curiosity; when applied to ourselves, we become effortlessly curious about our own loves, likes, and triggers. We find ourselves paying attention to our own thoughts and feelings—not because we are forced to, but because we want to.

We love ourselves in such a way that we want to know more about ourselves.


When engaging in the delectable experience of a self-love affair, we find ourselves even more dedicated to our well-being. We care for our bodies better, for we experience the bliss they bring us.

We look forward to time alone, because of the joy we experience from our own company.

Passion and Sexuality

Self-love goes beyond regular loving of the self: we experience joy through our body, mind, and spirit, including delicious sexual moments.

We may share love with another while savoring the experience of loving ourselves. We make love to ourselves knowing we are worthy of the sensational experience.

As we bring sexual energy into our experience of self-love, we allow our spirit to sing throughout the body—we celebrate that song—feeling it vibrate throughout our cells in the most physical and spiritually tantalizing way.

How to dive into the divine experience of knowing and loving yourself with passion:

When we wake up in the morning next to a lover, spouse, or partner, we greet them with a warm smile and a “Good Morning.” Try doing this for yourself. Upon waking, inwardly smile and welcome yourself to the new day.

Spend time getting to know the “I” within. 

Take yourself out for a coffee, or relax in the park and have a chat with the inner you. Bring along a notebook or laptop and allow yourself to free write—write down key thoughts and discoveries.

To get started: take a deep breath, focus on an area of life or a recent experience, and ask yourself questions, like you would a friend:

What’s one of my dream adventures?

How do I truly feel about this (insert situation here)?

Enjoy physical activity that makes you feel free.

If you love to dance, find a private room, turn on some music, and seduce yourself into dancing. Ask your body to move in any way that feels fantastic, and admire yourself in the process.

If you like to cycle, invite yourself on a bike ride and be present; enjoy your own company while savoring the way your body feels in momentum.

Explore what you truly look like and admire your features.

Instead of rushing through your make-up routine, or brushing your hair as you hurry to get dressed, try actually seeing yourself in the mirror. Get to know your face, eyes, and body—appreciate what you see and allow yourself to be proud of it.

Make love to yourself.

Loving yourself physically, as well as emotionally, is a powerful way to enhance your sense of self-worth while connecting genuinely to your sexual-self.  Merely caressing your own skin, running your hands over your thighs, or delving further into the realm of self-seduction and experiencing how much pleasure you can bring to you, will cause a shift to happen in your system that will create rippling effects in all parts of your life.

A self-love affair is a mind-blowing relationship with your soul and one of your pathways to Soulgasms.

It will add fire to your energy, spark to your life, and create wondrous shifts within your relationships with others.

Give it a try! You may be shocked at how much you can really love—you.


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