November 24, 2020

How Discovering my Personality Type Helped me Understand Myself & Others Better. {Includes Test}


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“We are unknown to ourselves, we men of knowledge—and with good reason. We have never sought ourselves—how could it happen that we should ever find ourselves? It has rightly been said: “Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also;” our treasure is where the beehives of our knowledge are.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche


An intelligent friend of mine who is pursuing her PhD in psychology has recently made what I thought was a shocking statement when she told me that most psychologists consider the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) test pure nonsense.

It was shocking because, on a personal level, it took me years to finally understand why I feel, think, act, and don’t fit in the way I do, and the first step toward that “epiphany” was the MBTI.

The first time I took the test, the result was mostly INTJ. Years later, after working on my EQ, spirituality, and acknowledging the existence of love and human emotions, I took the test again twice, and the result came as mostly INFJ with some INTJ traits.

Therefore, I am a mix between the counselor and the mastermind because once my mind takes control, my feelings stop working, depending on the situation.

To the folks who do not take the time to get to know me or those who make their own conclusions (because communication needs effort), it looks like I am double-faced or, even worse, with double personalities.

Thinkers find me too emotional, while feelers find me too rational, and thus, I end up not fitting in except with the one percent. I believe that the quote that best describes this type would be, “You, he said, are a terribly real thing in a terribly false world, and that, I believe, is why you are in so much pain.” ~ Emilie Autumn

Here are some of the traits that INFJs have in common:

>> We like simple things, and we don’t really like what other people consider fun.

>> We are highly functioning introverts because we are nearly always driven by a bigger cause.

>> Deep conversations with our kind of people are everything; otherwise, we might not talk for days.

>> Unbelievably selfless at times. If someone is ever loved by an INFJ, they will never experience this kind of fierce love again. Quite the independent type, an INFJ might look needy when in love.

>> We really dislike crowds, public speaking, and being in the spotlight unless it is necessary and for a good cause.

>> We are always so worried about annoying the people we love with our attention and text messages that we end up annoying them.

>> We love to be touched by specific people at specific times, but in general, we usually flinch at the idea of people invading our personal space.

>> We don’t trust 99.99 percent of humans, while we might easily trust any animal—although we do love humanity in an extremely compassionate way, from afar.

>> We dream big, and by big, I mean beliefs, visions, and solutions that include the entire planet and even some others, as well—just ask Elon Musk.

>> Our hobbies include writing, reading, music, photography, and theater, and we will most probably choose a career we are passionate about.

>> We forgive, but we completely detach ourselves from those who hurt us. We never bother with taking revenge, though. We have bigger issues on our minds, like saving the world. No wonder this personality type is also called The Prophet.

>> The famous “door slam” is not a myth. Only an INFJ, when extremely hurt, can block people out of nowhere without prior notice. It’s like that meme that says, “We get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds.”

>> An INFJ is the overthinker of the overthinkers. We always end up burnt out because we couldn’t stop overanalyzing details and situations.

George Orwell put it best when he said, “Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood,” and it couldn’t be truer for an INFJ who does not have a lot of friends, finds it hard to be in a relationship, and wears their hearts on their sleeves in a world that is apparently not ready for such transparency.

My fellow introverted intuitive people, you will be too much for many, and it will get difficult, but please do not give up because this dark place needs your light.

Some famous INFJs: Emily Bronte, Mahatma Gandhi, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Jimmy Carter, Nelson Mandela, and Jon Snow (I am allowed to few fictional characters).

Famous INTJs: Jane Austen, Nicola Tesla, Friedrich Nietzsche, Elon Musk, Mark Zuckerberg, Sherlock Holmes.

To take the test and discover more about your personality type, go here or here.



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