As if we didn’t already have enough on our plates before COVID-19, as women.
Now, the word “overwhelmed” doesn’t even begin to describe our daily lives.
Looking over my shoulder in the car at my children in the backseat, I tell them, “Okay, guys, mask up.” It’s a normal part of life now.
Other than finances, bored kids, and frustrating homework, everyday activities have become an extra stressor.
Ordering groceries online have become harder, with fewer and fewer reservations available. When unable to do so, a shopping trip with little ones is a whole new battle trying to keep them masked up and sanitized.
But what about the kids?
Can we talk about how these poor kids got their world turned upside down? They miss their friends, their social life, their teachers, and after school activities. Some children aren’t doing well with remote learning and need that hands-on approach in the classroom. Some children are struggling.
On top of all that, they sense that we’re under a lot of stress too. It’s hard not to feel like this new way of life is all falling on women and children. Fortunately, everything is temporary.
As they say, “This too shall pass.”
In the meantime, here are some tips to help keep you afloat from another mom going through the same thing:
1. Go easy on yourself.
We have all heard the phrase, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” First and foremost, give yourself some grace. We are in a global crisis; it’s okay not to have it together 100 percent of the time. You are human. You deserve your own compassion and forgiveness.
Create some time for yourself at least a few times a week. Take a mindful shower, do some yoga, or light some candles and read a book.
2. Keep an open mind and open communication with your children about how they are doing mentally.
It’s not natural for us to spend so much time away from other people, especially children used to sharing a classroom with 20+ children every day. Make sure they know they have a safe space to express their feelings. Let them process their thoughts in a healthy way. Be there to listen.
From social media and the news. Take a break from checking your phone throughout the day. Encourage kids to take a break, too—especially if they are using the computer for school purposes. Go outside, get some sunlight, go for a quick walk. Eat your lunch together without distraction. We are allowed to enjoy our lives and forget about world problems for a moment. Little moments add up.
4. Utilize the internet for fun at-home educational activities.
Pinterest has a lot of good examples. It doesn’t have to be anything that requires spending money. Show them a new chore, how to cook from a recipe, or do a science experiment (there are tons you can do with items you already have in your cabinet).
5. Create a positive space.
Not only for the children but for yourself as well. Use this time to raise the vibe in your home to make it a more positive place. Make lists and get organized. Come up with a routine for everyone. Maybe incorporate a family schedule.
Please feel free to comment with any more tips or resources you think could help others.
We are in this together.