Be with the ones who don’t run away when their ego or wounds get triggered, but instead, are willing to stay in the room with them—and you.
Be with the ones who can listen with empathy while you express how something is affecting you, especially if it’s something that they have said or how their behaviour has affected you.
Be with the ones who can see and value the fact that you have boundaries and areas you can speak about that feel uncomfortable.
Be with the ones who know that your ability to communicate, express yourself, and ask for what you need is a strength and a relationship bonus for both of you, not something to be feared. Strong, self-aware, well-spoken, and heart-centered people are the ones we can trust. They know their own self deeply and can connect deeply too.
Be with the ones who know how to fill their own cups so that they can help fill yours when a need for partnering arrives.
Even though you, too, are a great cup-filler for yourself and others, it’s important to make sure you’re not a one-person show with this.
Be with the ones who call you on the phone to connect with you. They are the ones who can hold a sacred space and who aren’t afraid of that sort of intimacy that is lost in our highly saturated, texting, and disconnected sort of world.
Be with the ones who show you their heart, their feelings, their tender side, their compassion and care.
Be with the ones who communicate that they need space or that things have changed for them, as they are the ones who will always feel safe for us, emotionally.
Be with the ones who choose to stay when things become more real and less easy, and let the ones who leave choose to.
Be with the ones who don’t just ask if you’re okay or express, “I’m here for you”—which, don’t get me wrong, feels nice, but what feels even nicer are the ones who take initiative to be there for you, beyond words. Those are the types who show the heck up and are connected to their humanness, and so can connect with yours too.
Be with the ones who feel like life is easier with knowing them, not more stressful. What the heck is the point if it’s more stressful? Haven’t we suffered enough? Let’s not let anyone else come along who is not aligned and capable enough to help make our life easier.
Be with the ones who can still hold space with you even when they’re going through their own sh*tstorm, even if it’s to communicate this truth. Those are the ones with tremendous emotional stability, who can hold more than one frequency at a time. It is strength to help to create more intimacy and stronger connections when otherwise things in lesser company could fall apart.
Be with the ones who accept you for all that you are with zero need to change you. The ones who celebrate your unique quirks—the idiosyncrasies that make you, you.
These are the ones who can help take us deeper into healing journeys, in so many graceful and beneficial ways.
Be with the ones who want to please you sexually and who find pleasure for self in doing so. These are the ones who are fuelled by your very essence, willing to do what it takes to learn you—mind, body, and spirit. This only helps to drive a union deeper.
Be with the ones who make you feel like a priority—that one is pretty self-explanatory.
Be with the ones who are sure of you, who are consistent with you, and who treat your heart with care when they have been given the gift of being able to hold it in their hands.
Be with the one—that is, you—first and foremost, so deeply and so intimately, that you see and feel the truth of why I share these words with you.
Be all these things mentioned—for you first, so that you can be all these things for them too.