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July 14, 2021

The Stories We Tell Ourselves:

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Hi everyone!

I know it has been a while since I’ve written anything, thanks for holding space for me as I took time off to travel and reconnect with people in my life:).

Today I want to talk about the stories that we tell ourselves. I was recently at a woman’s gathering in northern California that allowed me take a hard look at myself and my inner world. In the quiet of the woods I took some time to become introspective and a witness to what was happening inside of me. I realized that I was telling myself stories that were holding me back from the person that I truly am.

What do I mean by these “stories” in the first place? I am talking about the scripts that we live by. We get wrapped up in these scripts that make us think that “we are who we are” and that this will never change. For example, one script I have is “I am not good at math”. I told myself this for years and ya know what? I was bad at math! But not because I was actually bad at math, but because I BELIEVED that I was bad at math. I told myself constantly, over and over again that “math is not something I am good at and I should just stick to reading and writing”. I believed this with every fiber of my being and others believed it about me too because I told them this was true about me. Then we all somehow came to a mutual agreement that this was a true story about me. There was no going back, this belief was locked into my system and my life.

It was only a few years ago that I realized how limiting this belief was. One day, I thought to myself, “I am actually not bad at math”. You know what happened after I changed this belief? I was not so bad at math anymore. I actually enjoyed solving equations at times! I never would have imagined this could be me. This is how powerful these stories can be. This is what happens when we tell ourselves these stories about ourselves and believe them to be true. They limit us. They keep us in closed spaces and they confine us to be small people that never grow and evolve.

But we are not small people. We are big people! We are all always in process and progress; growing and changing as we experience this wild trip called life! At any point in time we can decide to believe something new about who we are and what we want to be. We can re-write the script whenever we are sick of the character we are playing. We are all creative and we all have the ability to weave whatever life we want for ourselves. It is a matter of getting out of our own way so that we can be open to the experiences and opportunities that are here for us every step of the way. However, if we remain “stuck” in our beliefs about who we think we are, we will remain closed off to these new experiences that help us grow and see things in a novel light.

In order to be aware of the stories that you are telling yourself, I invite you to examine the beliefs that you hold about who you think you are. Continue to ask yourself the question, “who am I?” As you continue to grow and experience, keep asking yourself this question. We are more than we think we are. We have the inherent ability to be whoever we want to be and to create whatever life we want for ourselves. Exciting right?! I think so too. As always, it is important to remember to be kind and compassionate with yourself as you explore what you think makes you “you”.

I hope you all have a great week and continue to be open to what arises as well as express gratitude for yourself and the abundance that surrounds you:).



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