October 17, 2021

Touch Creates Intimacy in a way Words Cannot.


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Touch is a language that goes deeper than words.

It’s the language of the body that has a knowing. It speaks to the heart, to the places deep within us.

Learning to touch, to massage, is one of the most important things we can do—especially in a relationship.

There is intimacy and connection in touch. There is safety in touch, and there is a place to rest, to belong.

There is release, comfort, healing, and home in touch.

There is pleasure, so much pleasure in touch.

Desire will wax and wane, arousal will come and go, and our want for sex will change over time through life.

Touch offers us something that is always there. Your hands on my body tell me of your love, caring, tenderness, and of your presence. There’s a nourishing in touch, a nurturing.

So often we touch for sex, because we want sex, and only because we want sex.

We read this deep inside because we know the language of touch. We know what’s in the touch, the story of touch, the quality of touch. We know the touch within the touch.

When we learn to touch from the heart, when we learn the possibility of touch, when we learn the different expressions of touch, worlds of possibility open to us. It becomes a way to create deep intimacy and connection, to show our caring, and to be present with each other. We see how touch creates intimacy in a way words cannot.

Words are of the mind; they’re analyzed, dissected, questioned. There’s a truth in touch that’s simply what it is. It’s a feeling, and in the feeling is the knowing. From a caress on my cheek, to a comforting, calming, relaxing foot massage, to a deep dive into the sensations of pleasure and the fire of arousal, there’s a knowing.

There’s a world of sensation that many of us never explore—an excitement, a path to arousal that wakes up every cell in our bodies with desire.

Touch is a way to take us deep, or high, and to feel ecstasy, every nerve dancing with delight—pleasure beyond pleasure. Waves of feeling that wash over and through our bodies, taking us to the places within us, and beyond us, where we know the deliciousness of sensual, sexual sensation and energy.

There is a meditation in touch that can be of pleasure, connection, healing, and being. It’s a spiritual expression, adoration, worship, a prayer of this body as an expression of the divine. The dance of my hands on your body is the dance of sacred awareness.

There are so many gifts in the giving and the receiving of touch.

Spending this time with a lover is an affirmation of our connection and relationship, whatever the context of that is. It’s an expression of love in so many ways, from the gentle, caring caress, to the fire of pleasure.

Touch is a lifelong journey that expresses so much of who we are and allows us to share that as we change.

I’ve been consciously exploring, teaching, learning, and developing ways to massage and touch for over 25 years, and there’s always more, always something else to discover, experience, and share. It’s a journey of wonder, curiosity, and the sheer joy of having a body.

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