Learn to listen to other people. They don’t necessarily do that to be a bad influence on you. Maybe they do that so that you can improve and become a better person. You never know what they’ve been through and their story.

If you don’t agree with what they say, don’t judge right away. Try to try to understand more deeper into what that person said. Not everyone is mean to you. There are some people who really care and love you so don’t shut yourself down or make the assumption that they are close to you because they want to hurt you.

Everyone has their own way of behaving. Especially those who have so many experience and journey than you. They probably won’t tell you frankly what they’ve been through because sometimes it’s also difficult for them to explain or remember all the life lessons they’ve had, especially if the experience traumatized them.

They just don’t want you to make the same mistakes as what they used to experience, it’s just that sometimes the way they show, you can’t accept it. Sometimes even when you don’t cross paths with them anymore, years later you just start to understand the reason for their act towards you at that time.

It doesn’t mean that when someone lectures you and then it makes that person is right and you are wrong. It’s just that maybe the way they convey to you, makes both of you two misunderstood and in the end the message was not delivered because you both failed to understand each other.

Maybe they don’t mean to lecture you, it’s just that the way they say it makes it look like they’re lecturing. Sometimes even because someone loves and cares too much makes them seem overprotective and irritates you with it all.

Learn to listen. If at that time you are upset and can’t accept their words. Calm yourself first, find a quiet place and make yourself comfortable. When you have calmed down, try to remember what the person said again and try to understand the meaning of what that person said.

It could be that the person is saying all that because they really care about you and love you and don’t want you to make the same mistakes like they made in their story in the past. It’s possible they did it for your own good its just you didn’t understand it at the time and you misunderstood their intentions.