The Mother Wound. What does that mean? As I sit here, I am reflecting on how do I make peace with a world that loves money? If it isn’t the love of money, it’s what money does. It influences people. It can influence for the good or the bad. I sit here and wonder what is my resistance to money? If I am being honest, I have a fear I will lose myself to the influence of money. I have the fear I will lose my values that I hold so dear. And then? Then where will I be? Who will I be?

All the existential questions. For a good portion of you, I am guessing you’re wondering why is this even an issue? Who doesn’t love money? I don’t. I have seen what money can do in the wrong hands and, frankly, it scares me. What does this have to do with the Mother Wound?

I will tell you.

Worthiness. When I look at all the dreams people have, all the goals, all the hopes and desires we all have and why we either don’t have it or are afraid to dream it… it all comes down to the Mother Wound; the wound given to us by our Mothers.

So, how do we get past the worthiness questions in our heads? Where do we go to find the answers? Only we can answer the questions of worthiness. Because they cover everything from jobs to finding a romantic partner and following our dreams and feeling if it is at all possible to have it all come true for us. How do we find a place where not only we have the thought it is all possible, but actually begin to believe it is possible for us?

Here’s what I did. I took a look at my life. I had a great job. I made good money. I had a boss and team I loved and enjoyed working with. I knew what I was doing was unfulfilling to me. I reached out to a friend who I had been watching on social media. Before you say, “It’s all highlight reels!” I know. So, I called her. We had a great conversation about what was going on in her life and the changes she was experiencing. I thought, ok, this is for me. I am ready. And so began my journey of self discovery, self development and asking a lot of questions in order to find what my truth was.

Addressing my Mother Wound comes is all about doing what I need to help me feel safe and protected at all times. This also requires me to remember to keep my walls down to allow good things in. Because if I have my walls up to protect myself from negative influences/situations or people, they also keep the goods things out. This can feel scary to anyone who has been betrayed because the thought of it happening all over again can be terrifying. Who can relate to this?

What I can tell you is this: it isn’t easy. It can feel quite difficult at times. At the end of the day it comes down to what do I want from life…to continue feeling wounded or to live?

So, what will it be for you?

If you’re ready, find a coach or a therapist (if you haven’t already) and begin the journey to reclaim your life and get to living. Know it may feel hard sometimes and it will be ok. You will be more than ok.