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July 15, 2022

When Your Mind Is Made Up

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Indecision is deadly strife that cuts to the bone. This type of pain leaves us hungry yearning and struggling to find our way.

It might be the most intense form of human suffering.

At 7 am I received the call ” I am driving to see her this weekend” he gushed sharing that he was embarrassed and adamant that he was going.

I wasn’t sure if my friend on the other end was informing me as a form of self-talk or confession. His mind was made up or was it?

Was our talk for solace or encouragement?

I did not know.

Let’s face it we have all been there. We have seen the signs ” Do not go there” followed by  “roadblock ahead”.

We might see the gigantic red flags blowing in the wind during our roadside travel yet, we humans want what we want. We often say ” they will be different” or possibly ” they have changed”.

This can be the same for other things like jobs, friendships, projects and the list goes on.

Should I stay or should I go? often replays. In the absence, we focus on the good and forget the bad and painful experiences and we are easily hooked back.

Unfortunately, there is no wise wizard to consult, no love guru

and no guide. We are all floundering. We are all experiencing.

Regardless of our decision be it ” good or bad” some relief comes from just making a decision and going for it.

In the end, what do we have to lose?

Perhaps more heartache and time?

At the end of the day if you can walk away without regret moving forward then you know in your heart that what you are choosing is the best. If something pulls you then decerning, reflecting and talking it out with others is a wise choice.

Today, there was nothing I could say to talk my friend out of returning to his old love and that isn’t what he wanted. He wanted softness and for me to listen. He wanted to be heard. He wanted to say ” hey, I made this decision and it might not be the best but I am doing it.

The call ended with ” I will call you on my way home”.

His mind was made up and he felt relief and possibly more relief talking it out.

Sometimes we just need a little space and a good friend who we can call.

Good friends are there to listen without judgement. I know I shared some judgment today. My hope is that I also shared some love.

When your mind is made up and you feel the love darlings there is nothing left to do but forge on for life is for living and loving and this is a selfless journey.

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