I love performing weddings.
For me, it’s about celebrating love. I have been an ordained Metaphysical Minister since 2009, and it’s still so satisfying to perform weddings. Being up on the altar with the couple is a great witness of love; yes, such a beautiful gift.
I am one of those high vibes, believer in love, fairy tales, and happily ever-afters. I believe in magic with love, even love at first sight and kismet love!
My husband and I have been together for 25 years, so I know what a long-lasting, loving relationship looks like.
Here are some tips to help you get there:
1. Communicate often. Make time to listen and talk with each other. Remember to be supportive and hold space for heart-to-heart conversations. Be open with each other about your feelings. Pause and connect with each other; eye contact is important, and make sure you are giving each other undivided attention (no phones).
2. Take time for intimacy. Be romantic, spontaneous, and have fun. Make sure you’re making time for each other, even if it’s just a quick phone call or a text message. Remember, intimacy stands for “into me you see,” so make sure to take time to truly see your partner.
3. Find out each other’s love languages. Do your best to show them that you love them in their love language—even if it’s something small like taking them out for coffee every week without fail, or my favorite, getting monthly flowers. (Flowers are not just for once a year.)
4. Compromise when needed. No one has to be right; we all just have our own perspectives on things. Remember that even though they may not agree with everything you say or do (and vice versa), they still love you unconditionally.
5. Love them unconditionally—for who they are. Your partner isn’t perfect—and you shouldn’t expect them to be—but if you truly love them for who they are, then you can work through the rough patches. Forgive, grow together, and respect each other.
6. Always say “I love you”—at least once a day—and never go to bed angry. You’re going to have disagreements from time to time (we all do), but if you can avoid letting those disagreements become full-on fights by always telling each other how much you care about one another, no matter how small or large the issue is, then you’ll be able to keep your relationship in good working order for years to come.
7. Be playful, daily. Take time to laugh, flirt, and have fun. This is an important part of any relationship, but especially when you’re married or engaged. My hubby and I flirt almost daily; others who do not know us, think we are newlyweds!
8. Schedule dates often. We all get busy, so make sure to go on monthly dinner dates, walks on the beach, or movie dates. Even with kids, make sure to nurture your relationship as a couple too. You will be a good role model to your children on how healthy relationships look like.
9. Do not allow yourself to be consumed by work or outside activities, such as sports teams or hobbies. Make sure that you can balance your time between work and family life so that everyone feels important in this world.
And last but not least:
10. Remember to take time for yourself too. Fill up your love tank; when you love yourself, you can accept love from others much easier.
I believe in love, and celebrating love is a gift.
When you get married, it’s one of the most important days of your life—so why not make it special? You deserve a day filled with love and laughter, surrounded by those who love you most. And what better way to celebrate your marriage than with a wedding that reflects all that is good about the two of you?