Listening to other people’s suggestions is not an easy thing. It’s not that they’re doing it because they want to get you into trouble, it could be that they’re doing it because they love and care about you. I agree that sometimes there are certain people who have bad intentions towards other people and intentionally mislead them and are happy if that person suffers but not everyone is like that.

Sometimes those who are close to you and know you well, then they are sincere to you, they lecture you, give you advice or warn you or maybe forbid you to do something, because they have chosen that path before.

Maybe they find it difficult to explain not because they don’t want to, maybe it all reminds them of the stupidity and mistakes they have made in the past. And it could also be that they know that you won’t listen to them or that you just ignore the whole thing because you think they’re doing it on purpose to make you unhappy.

I used to think the same way, but as time goes on, I’m getting older, all the life lessons I’ve been through, all the mistakes I’ve made, make me unintentionally try to warn others if they want to do the same. But unfortunately, sometimes, if they are young, it is difficult for them to accept my words, for them, I lecture too much and forbid them to enjoy life.

That’s not what I mean, I just don’t want them to make the same mistakes I made in the past, but in the end I know they have to go through that too, so they can understand. I still stick to my old habits, warning them but I leave all decisions to them myself and don’t force it. In the end I knew that all of it was for the sake of growing themselves up.

All I can do is support them and pray for their decision, I’m always worried that if the result is bad then they won’t be able to accept it. Often I encounter situations like that, I just don’t want them to be sad even though in the end maybe because it’s difficult for them to listen to other people’s suggestions, drag themselves into much more complicated situations, but what can I do, it’s their choice and it’s their life.

There’s nothing wrong with listening to advice from other people, especially those you know love you and care about you. If they are really sincere to you, it would never cross on their mind to hurting you. They did it for your sake