Angry at being treated unfairly? Pissed off that they don’t believe that what we tell them is the truth? If I had put my emotions first, I would have blasted that person for sure. But what’s the point of me doing that.

If that person had made assumptions beforehand then that’s how that person’s judgment of me will always be. Will never change.

Trying to change their minds or views on me? no matter how hard I try, their perspective will remain the same. Once I make a mistake then they assume that their assumptions are correct about me,  without them wanting to examine the truth first.

If that’s the case then there’s nothing I can do. Stopping and walking away would be much better than getting my emotions triggered. Instead of making my anger boil and ending up hurting them, it would be far better to leave them without an explanation.

It’s not that I don’t want to explain, but that my explanation won’t change anything, their assumptions are valid and can’t be changed.

Maybe it’s out of their insecurity. I respect and understand that. I’m not going to try to change something I know I can’t change. Not everyone can match us and let it all be as it is.

That’s why finding the right person sometimes takes a very long time and process. Whether it’s a love relationship or friendship for me, the pattern is the same.

Regardless of the type of relationship, for me, mutual is very much needed. How can you get along with someone when only one party is working for the relationship to work?

Even though at that time your insecurities arise because you are just knew the person, but it is very unwise if you have made assumptions about that person without knowing what that person is going through or that person’s situation.

Because once you make assumptions, forever imprinted in your mind is your assumptions. I agree sometimes we need to be precautious so bad things don’t happen but don’t assume until you find the real evidence.

It will be very painful if it turns out that in the end you find that your assumptions have been wrong and you will regret all the assumptions you have ever made about that person and to be able to fix all of that will not be easy because you have been unfair to treat that person according to your assumptions.

It is very important to be careful in making decisions or making judgments especially about other people we just met or maybe we know not long or only a small part about those we know that can lead us make assumptions about that person.

Don’t let yourself regret just because you made a wrong judgment. If you don’t want them to judge you then don’t judge them, try to understand them, get to know them better if you want to have a good and closer relationship with them.