Whenever someone suddenly blasts me for no clear reason, I’d be lying if I wasn’t pissed off. I tried to hold back my anger so as not to do the same. Sometimes I get triggered too, if they provoke me more.

Whenever they did that, I usually calmed myself down for a moment, not responding to them straight away. Often when their anger is at the max level, I prefer to lower my anger. I knew if I was provoked by their treatment, what would happen was a fight and we would hurt each other.

Maybe it wasn’t just only a small fight, maybe I’d hurt them a lot worse. Every time they act like that, what comes to my mind is that they must be going through a bad situation. They didn’t know how to express their anger, I happened to be the one with them and I was their target.

If I treat them the same way they treat me, won’t I be the same as them?

They may not realize that they are hurting others because of their actions. I can’t blame them because maybe they are fed up, don’t know what to do and maybe they don’t find a solution to get out of their bad situation.

They just want to be listened to, understood , they are just tired of being strong in their lives. They just want their burden to be lifted, even if only for a moment.

Sometimes there are also those who do it for other reasons, maybe just seeking for attention. Whatever their reasons, I don’t think it’s wise to make assumptions without knowing the truth.

I don’t know about other people, but if someone blasts me out of the blue, it’s much better to just shut up for a moment and learn to figure out that person’s situation.

Letting them vent all the burdens that are on their minds and waiting them to calm down is much better than being provoked by those who are not in the right mind.

Because when they are calm and can think clearly, then at that time they will start to figure out the situation. It could be that in the end they realize that they have made a mistake by blasting other people, it may also be that by being listened to by us they can find a solution to their problem.

Having the desire to help others is a noble thing. If you already have such an intention, then you should really know what to do to be able to help others. You don’t need to do big things, sometimes like listening to other people vent, you can help them, already lift their burden.